Staying out of a toxic relationship is more difficult that it might intuitively seem.
Getting away from a situation that is confusing and causes you to feel bad about yourself and unworthy of anything better doesn't always instantly equate to relief and happiness, though that can be a part of a normal reaction.
Grief over the loss of intimacy with someone is to be expected, and if your self esteem is suffering, or you are second guessing the meaning behind a course of events or the reality of the situation, you might have second thoughts about staying away from your ex partner.
Here are 4 steps to helping yourself follow through on the healthy decision you've made to leave a toxic relationship: 1.
Take care of yourself.
Your physical body is as important as your mental state, for they are linked and impact the status of the other.
Be sure you are eating healthy, preferably organic foods, and avoiding highly processed foods and sugars.
Exercise regularly, preferably cardiovascular exercise to increase the release of endorphins which boost mood.
Take vitamins and supplements as needed and recommended by your natural health care provider, starting with a food based multivitamin and fish oil for most people.
2.
Gather a lot of support around you.
You will need people not only to fill the social calendar that may look empty now that you no longer fill it with your ex, but to help reprogram you from the toxic messages and negativity that your ex partner heaped upon you.
Your support network should build you up and help you to increase your resolve to have a better life.
3.
Sever contact as much as humanly possible from your toxic ex partner.
This person will likely use all the tactics that worked before to draw you back into his or her control.
you need time to heal, regroup, and gain perspective.
Give yourself that gift.
If you have to talk due to children issues etc, just stay closely to the topic at hand and if your ex veers off course, just excuse yourself or get off the phone.
4.
Regain your awareness of your instincts and begin to follow their lead.
Feel what happens in your body when you experience a positive and negative experience.
Be aware our bodies will react to danger and tell us what to do.
As you notice relaxation around one person and shame, anxiety, or even fear around another, take note of these things.
Use these prompts to make daily decisions about how you talk to and spend time with.
Getting away from a situation that is confusing and causes you to feel bad about yourself and unworthy of anything better doesn't always instantly equate to relief and happiness, though that can be a part of a normal reaction.
Grief over the loss of intimacy with someone is to be expected, and if your self esteem is suffering, or you are second guessing the meaning behind a course of events or the reality of the situation, you might have second thoughts about staying away from your ex partner.
Here are 4 steps to helping yourself follow through on the healthy decision you've made to leave a toxic relationship: 1.
Take care of yourself.
Your physical body is as important as your mental state, for they are linked and impact the status of the other.
Be sure you are eating healthy, preferably organic foods, and avoiding highly processed foods and sugars.
Exercise regularly, preferably cardiovascular exercise to increase the release of endorphins which boost mood.
Take vitamins and supplements as needed and recommended by your natural health care provider, starting with a food based multivitamin and fish oil for most people.
2.
Gather a lot of support around you.
You will need people not only to fill the social calendar that may look empty now that you no longer fill it with your ex, but to help reprogram you from the toxic messages and negativity that your ex partner heaped upon you.
Your support network should build you up and help you to increase your resolve to have a better life.
3.
Sever contact as much as humanly possible from your toxic ex partner.
This person will likely use all the tactics that worked before to draw you back into his or her control.
you need time to heal, regroup, and gain perspective.
Give yourself that gift.
If you have to talk due to children issues etc, just stay closely to the topic at hand and if your ex veers off course, just excuse yourself or get off the phone.
4.
Regain your awareness of your instincts and begin to follow their lead.
Feel what happens in your body when you experience a positive and negative experience.
Be aware our bodies will react to danger and tell us what to do.
As you notice relaxation around one person and shame, anxiety, or even fear around another, take note of these things.
Use these prompts to make daily decisions about how you talk to and spend time with.
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