There are all kinds of reasons why people eventually break up.
However, there is a common thread that can be found in a large number of them.
What is it? Stubbornness.
The real problem usually isn't arguing, but rather each person digging in deeper and deeper as they try to prove they are right.
Therefore, it makes sense that if you want to get your ex back, then you have to be less stubborn.
Assuming there is something you are both still mad about, the question becomes: are you now willing to give in? Even a little? If not, then you need to look at why.
If you are worried about your ex somehow having the upper hand, then you need a fresh perspective.
The trick is to find a part of your "argument" that doesn't matter as much to you, and then build from there.
By conceding on a small point, you will be showing that you're willing to work things out.
Maybe you're ready to move forward, but what if your ex is still being stubborn? Well, that's another problem with not giving in.
All too often we use our partner's stubbornness as an excuse to not budge ourselves.
But the truth is that one of you has to make the first move.
You will gain much more than you could ever lose if you decide to be the one to start chipping away at the wall that is keeping you apart.
To be clear, nobody is asking you to give up your principles to get your ex back.
That wouldn't be fair to you or them.
However, when you're willing to work in the spirit of compromise, then you will be able to start patching things up.
Also, it's a good idea to watch out for signs of stubbornness in the future, should the two of you get back together.