If you plan to get back with your ex, you're going to have to initiate some form of contact with them at some point in the future.
The question is, how to call your ex and what to say to get him or her to meet with you? There may very well be some hard feelings and even a bit of apprehension about what your call is really about.
Unless your ex is dying to get back together with you, some caution is necessary here.
The first thing you need to do when you call your ex is to keep the conversation as light spirited as possible.
Don't talk about the past, your feelings, or try to see whether or not they're seeing anyone new.
None of that is important.
You want to give the impression that you just want to get together with them for the sake of old fimes.
Have the meeting in a public place and make it plain that it's a casual meeting for a short time.
This will keep the pressure off your ex, and make it hard for them to say no.
If you called your ex and got to their voicemail, leave a short and simple message.
Don't go into details about why you called and make sure to maintain a cheerful and easy tone of voice.
Whatever you do, don't call twice on the same day or even one day after another.
Give it at least 3 days between calls if you don't hear from your ex after you leave the first message.
Even if your ex doesn't get back to you, don't give up.
Make a second and even third try.
If you really want to get your ex back, it's worth the effort.