It's not easy going through a bad breakup, but a lot of people make it harder on themselves by making the same classic mistakes time and again.
Some of these things can really mess up your chances of getting your ex back, so it's important to keep a lock on any of these behaviors lest you experience firsthand just how bad they can be.
1) Staying together in spite of having broken up.
Too many people fresh out of a relationship they didn't choose to end think that continuing to be up their ex's face is a great idea and makes it more likely that their ex will come to his senses and take you back.
This is not the case...
in fact, being too close to your ex can have adverse effects that keep you two from ever getting back together.
Best course of action is to give him about a month's break of no contact whatsoever, during which you can be getting your life back on track and organizing a plan to get him back.
2) Searching for a "quick fix" and finding alcohol or drugs.
Not only is this a bad way to deal with any problem, it's also a great way to set yourself up for thorough embarrassment.
Lonely and desperate people don't do well with liquor, and "drunk dialing" comes up pretty often...
which is when (quite drunk) you get the idea to call your ex (even though it's 3:00 AM).
I'm sure I don't need to elaborate on why that's a bad idea, but rest assured that with some alcohol in you it can seem like a good one...
until morning and your hangover.
3) Thrusting too much attention on your ex.
I know you're panicking, and it seems like your only shot at making sure he's still thinking of you is to constantly be calling or messaging him, but trust me when I tell you that this is a bad idea.
It's called "text-message terrorism" and it just makes you look like a desperate crazy person, causing your ex to head for the hills and never look back.
Give him some space, and work on getting your life back together.
4) Actively pursuing your ex without any form of plan for how you're going to go about it.
This is a difficult situation that takes some care in working through it, so you're going to need a helping hand or at least a lot of serious thought when it comes to deciding upon an overall strategy.
Going into this without one would be a very bad idea, as these situations don't necessarily make a lot of sense...
having a plan you know works is far superior to following your first impulses.
Some of these things can really mess up your chances of getting your ex back, so it's important to keep a lock on any of these behaviors lest you experience firsthand just how bad they can be.
1) Staying together in spite of having broken up.
Too many people fresh out of a relationship they didn't choose to end think that continuing to be up their ex's face is a great idea and makes it more likely that their ex will come to his senses and take you back.
This is not the case...
in fact, being too close to your ex can have adverse effects that keep you two from ever getting back together.
Best course of action is to give him about a month's break of no contact whatsoever, during which you can be getting your life back on track and organizing a plan to get him back.
2) Searching for a "quick fix" and finding alcohol or drugs.
Not only is this a bad way to deal with any problem, it's also a great way to set yourself up for thorough embarrassment.
Lonely and desperate people don't do well with liquor, and "drunk dialing" comes up pretty often...
which is when (quite drunk) you get the idea to call your ex (even though it's 3:00 AM).
I'm sure I don't need to elaborate on why that's a bad idea, but rest assured that with some alcohol in you it can seem like a good one...
until morning and your hangover.
3) Thrusting too much attention on your ex.
I know you're panicking, and it seems like your only shot at making sure he's still thinking of you is to constantly be calling or messaging him, but trust me when I tell you that this is a bad idea.
It's called "text-message terrorism" and it just makes you look like a desperate crazy person, causing your ex to head for the hills and never look back.
Give him some space, and work on getting your life back together.
4) Actively pursuing your ex without any form of plan for how you're going to go about it.
This is a difficult situation that takes some care in working through it, so you're going to need a helping hand or at least a lot of serious thought when it comes to deciding upon an overall strategy.
Going into this without one would be a very bad idea, as these situations don't necessarily make a lot of sense...
having a plan you know works is far superior to following your first impulses.
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