After breaking up with your ex getting back together has a lot to do with how you react to the breakup,when one is going through a painful experience it it difficult to remain rational and calm as you are hurt so badly.
But if you take the right steps there is every chance it will happen if the love is still there.
One of the hardest parts is to stop yourself from contacting you ex immediately after the breakup because contact to early can often alienate the situation further, you have to remember that your ex is also hurting.
The problem with making contact to early is that your emotions are very painful and raw.
This can make it difficult to put things in the right perspective, as rejection is a hard emotion to accept, you are likely to say things which later you my regret.
Unfortunately one of the reason is when you are in an emotional painful state you look for someone-else to blame for the suffering that you are experiencing, so making contact to early can lead to more problems.
It would be wiser to give yourself several weeks before making contact as your emotions will be more settled.
Giving yourself and your ex breathing space also give you both time to reflect on the positive parts of your relationship, rather than the negative thoughts you are having now.
By taking several steps back from the relationship you may find that will help you to see things in a different light.
You have to remember that your confidence and self-esteem has been shattered,so stepping back and putting some distance between you and your ex is the best move at this time.
During this period it's important that you continue your social life being with other people can help tremendously to lift your spirits, as laughing and communicating with others is very healing.
What you must not do is hide away and neglect family and friends.
After spending some time apart you may feel ready to contact your ex, perhaps an invitation for coffee,lunch or dinner.
This meeting is probably best done in a public place, as having other people around can also help keep your emotions under control.
Be positive during your meeting, as your aim is to get back together,so keep it amicable,don't make him/her feel guilty as it will put up a barrier between you and not solve any of the issues.
When your meeting is over you will start to analyse your feeling towards your ex,you may even decided that it is best left alone or hopefully move forward together.
But if you take the right steps there is every chance it will happen if the love is still there.
One of the hardest parts is to stop yourself from contacting you ex immediately after the breakup because contact to early can often alienate the situation further, you have to remember that your ex is also hurting.
The problem with making contact to early is that your emotions are very painful and raw.
This can make it difficult to put things in the right perspective, as rejection is a hard emotion to accept, you are likely to say things which later you my regret.
Unfortunately one of the reason is when you are in an emotional painful state you look for someone-else to blame for the suffering that you are experiencing, so making contact to early can lead to more problems.
It would be wiser to give yourself several weeks before making contact as your emotions will be more settled.
Giving yourself and your ex breathing space also give you both time to reflect on the positive parts of your relationship, rather than the negative thoughts you are having now.
By taking several steps back from the relationship you may find that will help you to see things in a different light.
You have to remember that your confidence and self-esteem has been shattered,so stepping back and putting some distance between you and your ex is the best move at this time.
During this period it's important that you continue your social life being with other people can help tremendously to lift your spirits, as laughing and communicating with others is very healing.
What you must not do is hide away and neglect family and friends.
After spending some time apart you may feel ready to contact your ex, perhaps an invitation for coffee,lunch or dinner.
This meeting is probably best done in a public place, as having other people around can also help keep your emotions under control.
Be positive during your meeting, as your aim is to get back together,so keep it amicable,don't make him/her feel guilty as it will put up a barrier between you and not solve any of the issues.
When your meeting is over you will start to analyse your feeling towards your ex,you may even decided that it is best left alone or hopefully move forward together.
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