The good news is that you can get your ex back.
Your life is not ruined and it is not in ruins.
Even if you can't work things out, your life will continue without your ex in it.
You can and will get through this stage.
Hopefully, at the other end of this proverbial tunnel, you'll come out as a better person.
One that any person will want to have in their life.
Having said that, Let's talk about what you can do to get your ex back.
To get your ex back, you need to understand the 3 basic rules of relationships.
These are 3 things apply to most human relationships and quite possibly to many other situations, but you should be especially aware of these things during this stage.
1.
We want what can't have.
You know the old saying "you don't know what you've got until you've lost it?" The first thing that you need to do, is to not cling.
Don't cling on to them and demand their attention.
Adjust to your new reality and understand that you don't need your ex in your life in order for you to be happy.
It's important that you do this in a visible fashion since it's the exact opposite of what your ex expects you to do.
Suddenly, you become the one that doesn't want them, and now they want you back.
Yes, I'm over simplifying here, but I think that you get my point.
The more you try to cling on to your ex, the more they will push you away.
2.
Humans resist whatever restricts them.
Remember that Pink Floyd song with the lyrics "We don't need no thought control?" The thing to remember is that you should not try to control your ex.
Don't try to stop them from seeing someone else.
Don't make up phony emergencies to try to get their attention either.
A fake emergency is transparent at best and annoying and petty at worst.
Instead, what you should do is show them that you are better than their new person.
Take up that hobby you always wanted, reconnect with old friends and become an independent person.
3.
People love themselves more than they will love you.
Encourage your ex to love themselves and then leave them alone.
Eventually, they'll start to miss your attention.
Your ex will want you back and will start to remember all the good times that you had together.
Here are some things that you should definitely not say or do.
Don't say: "But I love, you" It sends the wrong message.
You're basically trying to justify some action that you've taken, or you're trying to beg them to come back to you.
Don't beg.
You're not a dog at the diner table looking for scraps.
You know how annoying that is.
Besides, what do responsible owners tell their dogs? "DON'T BEG!" Surely, you're better than a dog.
Don't try to say "But I've done this and this and this for you.
" The past is gone, besides, it makes it appear as if there is a price for past and future affection.
Your life is not ruined and it is not in ruins.
Even if you can't work things out, your life will continue without your ex in it.
You can and will get through this stage.
Hopefully, at the other end of this proverbial tunnel, you'll come out as a better person.
One that any person will want to have in their life.
Having said that, Let's talk about what you can do to get your ex back.
To get your ex back, you need to understand the 3 basic rules of relationships.
These are 3 things apply to most human relationships and quite possibly to many other situations, but you should be especially aware of these things during this stage.
1.
We want what can't have.
You know the old saying "you don't know what you've got until you've lost it?" The first thing that you need to do, is to not cling.
Don't cling on to them and demand their attention.
Adjust to your new reality and understand that you don't need your ex in your life in order for you to be happy.
It's important that you do this in a visible fashion since it's the exact opposite of what your ex expects you to do.
Suddenly, you become the one that doesn't want them, and now they want you back.
Yes, I'm over simplifying here, but I think that you get my point.
The more you try to cling on to your ex, the more they will push you away.
2.
Humans resist whatever restricts them.
Remember that Pink Floyd song with the lyrics "We don't need no thought control?" The thing to remember is that you should not try to control your ex.
Don't try to stop them from seeing someone else.
Don't make up phony emergencies to try to get their attention either.
A fake emergency is transparent at best and annoying and petty at worst.
Instead, what you should do is show them that you are better than their new person.
Take up that hobby you always wanted, reconnect with old friends and become an independent person.
3.
People love themselves more than they will love you.
Encourage your ex to love themselves and then leave them alone.
Eventually, they'll start to miss your attention.
Your ex will want you back and will start to remember all the good times that you had together.
Here are some things that you should definitely not say or do.
Don't say: "But I love, you" It sends the wrong message.
You're basically trying to justify some action that you've taken, or you're trying to beg them to come back to you.
Don't beg.
You're not a dog at the diner table looking for scraps.
You know how annoying that is.
Besides, what do responsible owners tell their dogs? "DON'T BEG!" Surely, you're better than a dog.
Don't try to say "But I've done this and this and this for you.
" The past is gone, besides, it makes it appear as if there is a price for past and future affection.
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