Why did he cheat on you? What could you possibly have done to deserve this? Where do you go from here? Should you keep working on the relationship? All of these questions tend to run through the mind of a woman who gets cheated on.
You need to know that what you are thinking and feeling is normal.
It is a hard time and you have every right to ask, "Why did he cheat?" and you have every right to get an answer.
However, getting an answer is often easier said then done.
This is a situation that needs to be handled with care and delicacy or it will only get worse.
These tips can help you find out the reason that he cheated.
Stop arguing.
Arguing is often very easy to do.
You through in a situation like this and you are bound to argue.
However, it doesn't really change anything, solve anything, or get any answers.
If you argue then you are only going to put him on the defense which causes a blockage in the ability to communicate.
Put your emotions on the back burner.
Yes, the fact that he cheated stirs up a whole lot of negative emotions with in.
You have every right to be hurt, mad, sad, angry, and more.
But if you keep stirring those emotions than you will only keep the problem going.
You won't be able to have a real conversation.
Don't continually remind him that he cheated.
You won't get anywhere talking about it all the time and reminding him that he did it.
Often it is something that you want to do, but it doesn't help.
So, try to keep it under wraps.
Take part of the blame.
Let him know that you know your relationship could be better.
Let him know that you want to work on it, if you really want to work on it.
This will ease some of the tension and believe it or not will be the first step in healing.
Talk.
Once you have your emotions under control it is time to sit down and talk about it.
Leave the emotions behind.
Carefully asked why he cheated and how the two of you can fix the relationship.
Talk about it because the answers to this conversation are going to determine whether or not the relationship can continue.
The conversation in which you ask why he cheated should only happen on, don't keep talking about it.
Once you have stopped arguing, put your emotions aside, stopped continually reminding him, taken part of the blame, and talked it through you will know the answer to, "why did he cheat?".
The next question you both need to answer is whether or not you want the relationship to continue.
Be honest and consider whether or not you can forgive him.