Jennifer and Steve aren't sure how their marriage moved from passionate and close to contentious, angry and distant in such a short time.
They've only been married 1 year and they argue and fight constantly.
Jennifer frequently accuses Steve of either having an affair or considering having an affair.
Steve has a habit of being vague or lying about where he's really been which only intensifies Jennifer's jealousy and suspicions.
Both of them wonder if they'll make it another year together! When you are in a love relationship or marriage, there are specific things that can help you and your partner stay connected and happy and there are specific things that can drive you apart and break up your relationship quickly and painfully.
One weapon of fast destruction for a relationship is keeping secrets.
Even if you aren't doing anything inappropriate or "wrong," when you intentionally withhold information about what you've been doing, who you've been with or even what you want, it can feel like a lie to your partner.
Chances are high that he or she will find out what's really been going on with you and this erodes trust every time.
Without solid, healthy trust, it is difficult to have a fulfilling and enjoyable relationship.
Whether you are a private person or you worry about how your mate will react to something, it does not matter.
When you keep secrets from your partner, you make yourself look guilty and as if you are lying to cover up some inappropriate behavior.
You also put distance between you and your partner in the process.
If you feel compelled to keep secrets, go within and get clear about what motivates you to do so.
Take steps to change this habit based on what you discover.
Another weapon of fast destruction is making assumptions.
This one may be the flip side of keeping secrets and it can also cause you to believe that it is a good idea to withhold information from your mate.
For example, you might think that your partner will become angry or feel hurt to know that you met your college boyfriend or girlfriend for lunch...
and so you choose not to tell your partner about it.
You may assume, for instance, that your partner is dissatisfied with your love life and is looking to cheat and that is why he or she set up an account on a social networking site like Facebook or Twitter.
Making assumptions can lead to jealousy, accusations, suspicions, inner torment and conflict between you and your mate.
Making assumptions can also lead to lying (even if your intentions are "good").
Couples who stay together in happy, fulfilled, passionate and connected love relationships or marriages know that it's vital for each person to be honest and open-- not only with one another, but also within themselves.
They've only been married 1 year and they argue and fight constantly.
Jennifer frequently accuses Steve of either having an affair or considering having an affair.
Steve has a habit of being vague or lying about where he's really been which only intensifies Jennifer's jealousy and suspicions.
Both of them wonder if they'll make it another year together! When you are in a love relationship or marriage, there are specific things that can help you and your partner stay connected and happy and there are specific things that can drive you apart and break up your relationship quickly and painfully.
One weapon of fast destruction for a relationship is keeping secrets.
Even if you aren't doing anything inappropriate or "wrong," when you intentionally withhold information about what you've been doing, who you've been with or even what you want, it can feel like a lie to your partner.
Chances are high that he or she will find out what's really been going on with you and this erodes trust every time.
Without solid, healthy trust, it is difficult to have a fulfilling and enjoyable relationship.
Whether you are a private person or you worry about how your mate will react to something, it does not matter.
When you keep secrets from your partner, you make yourself look guilty and as if you are lying to cover up some inappropriate behavior.
You also put distance between you and your partner in the process.
If you feel compelled to keep secrets, go within and get clear about what motivates you to do so.
Take steps to change this habit based on what you discover.
Another weapon of fast destruction is making assumptions.
This one may be the flip side of keeping secrets and it can also cause you to believe that it is a good idea to withhold information from your mate.
For example, you might think that your partner will become angry or feel hurt to know that you met your college boyfriend or girlfriend for lunch...
and so you choose not to tell your partner about it.
You may assume, for instance, that your partner is dissatisfied with your love life and is looking to cheat and that is why he or she set up an account on a social networking site like Facebook or Twitter.
Making assumptions can lead to jealousy, accusations, suspicions, inner torment and conflict between you and your mate.
Making assumptions can also lead to lying (even if your intentions are "good").
Couples who stay together in happy, fulfilled, passionate and connected love relationships or marriages know that it's vital for each person to be honest and open-- not only with one another, but also within themselves.
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