After a break you may think many ways to get your ex back; some ways are better than others.
There is a lot of advice that is thrown around, but here are the top five things to avoid if you want to be together again.
1.
Stalk them - This sounds funny to those who have never been a victim of stalking.
It is actually illegal in many jurisdictions.
If you want them back, give them some space and time to think things through.
Calling them several times a day, visiting them at work, or waiting for them outside their home are just a few examples.
2.
Lie - Whether you are lying about her to others, to yourself, or her it is a bad thing to do.
Eventually the truth will come to light, and when it does it will only compound the problem.
When you try to get your ex back, you must be honest with each other - no matter how difficult it is.
A relationship build on truth and trust will last longer than one built on a crumbling foundation of falsehood.
3.
Try to make them jealous - There are extremely rare cases where this works.
But be very careful as someone could get hurt.
Don't even think about playing the jealousy card unless the person you are pretending to care for (read: using) knows what you are really doing, and is on board with it.
Even then, you may be pushing your ex farther away from you by doing it.
4.
Be a jerk - Sure, you are hurt, and maybe bitter.
But acting like a jerk will not do any good.
Besides, if she takes you back because you are acting like a jerk, then she has issues.
You can't bully someone into loving you.
5.
Giving up - As long as you are not doing any of the above, then don't stop trying to get them back.
If you love your ex, then she is worth any investment of time and energy it will take to reunite.