You have just suffered through a break-up and you're thinking, "I want to get my ex back," but how? A break-up can be a difficult time with so much emotional turmoil brewing.
You must act calm under these circumstances and avoid saying something you'll want to take back later.
You may feel as though you are downing in a sea of sorrow, but with this life-preserver, you'll float to the top and the sun's rays of hope will shine upon you once again.
The natural reaction of most people when faced with the sudden emotional break, of their ex, are likely to become defensive and in some cases defiant.
Even though this may seem natural, this is the worse reaction as it will compel your ex to stay further away and help justify their reasons for the break-up.
You will have a better opportunity to get your ex back if you make a clean break and constructively repair and rebuild your situation.
3 Things to Avoid During a Break-Up: Avoid Arguing: Arguing and becoming defensive will usually be the first response to a break-up.
No one likes to get hurt and the emotional pain can be devastating.
Due to the sudden pain, most people will try to justify themselves in an attempt to prove they are good enough for that person or they may just simply lash out in anger.
This will further fan the flames and drive your ex further away from you.
If you did lash out immediately during the break, you may still have an opportunity to get your ex back, but it will take more dedication than it may have otherwise.
Desperation: This can be a killer to any relationship.
Desperation is a sure sign of weakness and a lack of self-confidence.
The first reaction is to call your ex 100-times a day, think about it...
would you want to talk to someone acting this way? It's natural to feel the need to hear their voice or have the desire to talk about what went wrong, but this is not the time for that.
Try to restrain yourself and avoid any deliberate contact for at least one month while you heal from this emotional train wreck.
Avoid Retaliating: No matter what happens between you and your ex, never become vengeful.
Any retaliatory actions you take may not only send your ex further away, you may get into trouble with the law.
If you are seriously angry at your ex for breaking-up with you, then this may be a great opportunity for you to grow into a strong more self-confident person.
Once you see how wonderful of a person you are, you will see that no person is worth becoming angry over.
You must act calm under these circumstances and avoid saying something you'll want to take back later.
You may feel as though you are downing in a sea of sorrow, but with this life-preserver, you'll float to the top and the sun's rays of hope will shine upon you once again.
The natural reaction of most people when faced with the sudden emotional break, of their ex, are likely to become defensive and in some cases defiant.
Even though this may seem natural, this is the worse reaction as it will compel your ex to stay further away and help justify their reasons for the break-up.
You will have a better opportunity to get your ex back if you make a clean break and constructively repair and rebuild your situation.
3 Things to Avoid During a Break-Up: Avoid Arguing: Arguing and becoming defensive will usually be the first response to a break-up.
No one likes to get hurt and the emotional pain can be devastating.
Due to the sudden pain, most people will try to justify themselves in an attempt to prove they are good enough for that person or they may just simply lash out in anger.
This will further fan the flames and drive your ex further away from you.
If you did lash out immediately during the break, you may still have an opportunity to get your ex back, but it will take more dedication than it may have otherwise.
Desperation: This can be a killer to any relationship.
Desperation is a sure sign of weakness and a lack of self-confidence.
The first reaction is to call your ex 100-times a day, think about it...
would you want to talk to someone acting this way? It's natural to feel the need to hear their voice or have the desire to talk about what went wrong, but this is not the time for that.
Try to restrain yourself and avoid any deliberate contact for at least one month while you heal from this emotional train wreck.
Avoid Retaliating: No matter what happens between you and your ex, never become vengeful.
Any retaliatory actions you take may not only send your ex further away, you may get into trouble with the law.
If you are seriously angry at your ex for breaking-up with you, then this may be a great opportunity for you to grow into a strong more self-confident person.
Once you see how wonderful of a person you are, you will see that no person is worth becoming angry over.
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