When two people break up or separate after a long period of being together, it is natural for them to be hurt and continue holding on.
This is especially true for one partner who is still very much in love with the other.
However, reality does bite and both parties will simply have to go on with their lives regardless of how they feel.
This is because they cannot expect personal growth if they were to keep pining for memories.
Breaking up can hurt but it is a fact of life that nearly everybody goes through.
And to stop oneself from moving on after a failed relationship is a way of putting oneself in the pit of self-destruction.
In other words, when a relationship fails, moving on is the only way to go.
All of these things, however, are easier said than done.
It is easy to tell someone to forget the person who has hurt them and to continue living their lives.
In reality, this can be very difficult.
For some, it takes months but for others, it can take years and even decades.
When it comes to the length of time a person takes to recover from a hurtful experience with an ex-partner, it all boils down to a decision - the decision to break away from the past and to keep moving forward no matter what seems to be bringing them back to their past.
There are many ways to cope with a break-up, whether or not there has been a marriage.
One of these is simply to acknowledge within oneself that the relationship is over and that it will never be restored.
This takes some time though.
You cannot expect someone who has just divorced his partner to readily accept that things will no longer work out.
It can take some time, but if a person is strong enough and sensible enough, he will come around to the fact that things have reached their end and that there is nothing left to do but to accept this fact.
Another thing that could be an issue with regards to moving on is the feeling of attachment to that person who has been there for the longest time.
If you've had your partner for years and you finally decide to call it quits, you may still feel that attachment between yourself and that person even when love has actually faded.
This is something many people struggle with.
They go on believing they still love the person they have broken up with, only to realize that it's only afeeling of attachment for their ex that's keeping them from moving on.
In this scenario, they can again acknowledge that it's not even love anymore and from that moment on, they can decide to break away from that attachment and to start living their lives with a fresher and healthier perspective.
This is especially true for one partner who is still very much in love with the other.
However, reality does bite and both parties will simply have to go on with their lives regardless of how they feel.
This is because they cannot expect personal growth if they were to keep pining for memories.
Breaking up can hurt but it is a fact of life that nearly everybody goes through.
And to stop oneself from moving on after a failed relationship is a way of putting oneself in the pit of self-destruction.
In other words, when a relationship fails, moving on is the only way to go.
All of these things, however, are easier said than done.
It is easy to tell someone to forget the person who has hurt them and to continue living their lives.
In reality, this can be very difficult.
For some, it takes months but for others, it can take years and even decades.
When it comes to the length of time a person takes to recover from a hurtful experience with an ex-partner, it all boils down to a decision - the decision to break away from the past and to keep moving forward no matter what seems to be bringing them back to their past.
There are many ways to cope with a break-up, whether or not there has been a marriage.
One of these is simply to acknowledge within oneself that the relationship is over and that it will never be restored.
This takes some time though.
You cannot expect someone who has just divorced his partner to readily accept that things will no longer work out.
It can take some time, but if a person is strong enough and sensible enough, he will come around to the fact that things have reached their end and that there is nothing left to do but to accept this fact.
Another thing that could be an issue with regards to moving on is the feeling of attachment to that person who has been there for the longest time.
If you've had your partner for years and you finally decide to call it quits, you may still feel that attachment between yourself and that person even when love has actually faded.
This is something many people struggle with.
They go on believing they still love the person they have broken up with, only to realize that it's only afeeling of attachment for their ex that's keeping them from moving on.
In this scenario, they can again acknowledge that it's not even love anymore and from that moment on, they can decide to break away from that attachment and to start living their lives with a fresher and healthier perspective.
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