Zillions of folks are hooking up with each other on the internet nowadays.
People who aren't entirely stupid, I mean.
And the place where that stupidity has the most opportunity to shine is, of course, your first words in a message to a potential admirer.
Well, it doesn't mean that online dating makes you a creepy wash-out.
Your butterfly collection does.
I was always successful with the opposite sex and hooked up anywhere along my way home or to work.
No matter what I was doing or where I was going I was always alert for an opportunity.
But dating online is somewhat completely different.
If you didn't know yet, I'll explain.
Most of people are trolling through photos and making an instant decision by weeding out the following three main types of swains: woman holding a baby, "just a torso and simply not my type.
And even in case somebody considers you attractive a burlesque of your first message can ruin all chances of romance.
Your epistle doesn't have to be Pulitzer-worthy, by any means -- although spell check really doesn't hurt -- but there's a whole passel of openers that will get you deleted from a digital dater's heart.
Your photo.
A person behind the mask.
Uploading a picture from this year's Halloween can be a good way to show your "fun part" to potential swain.
However, when your profile snap depicts you dressed as a bank clerk Stanley Ipkiss, transformed into a manic super-hero when he wears a mysterious mask, the ladies would certainly get confused.
When choosing a main profile photo, make sure to show the folks what you look like in everyday life, not just October 31.
Either that or do a gonzo makeover quickly.
A creepy snap of a dude sitting on a yellow vinyl couch.
An overexposed photo of a girl in sunglasses posing in front of the Liberty Statue.
An opaque, red-eyed snap of a dude with a bottle of beer in his hand.
These images are not even worthy of your Flickr account.
Why? Because they might as well be of anyone else in the world.
Nobody is interested in your autobiography.
If you come up and say: Hi! My name is Paul! I moved to California from Wyoming three years ago and I'm loving it! I walk my 3-year-old Labrador Retriever along Sunset Boulevard every evening at 6 p.
m! If you sit down at a bar and tell someone your hours long life story you'll soon find yourself sitting there alone.
Why no one wants you? Well, what else is there to find out about you? You unveiled all your trumps at the first date.
Your partner feels like she's already dated you, and gets bored the first time around.
You'd better choose something you and your partner have in common and start with that.
You'll have loads of time later to run out of things to tell.
May be you are an "eccentric" and overreacting.
For instance you may say: Come here, cutie, let me fix your collar! I'm going to take you down to the playground and push you on the swings! And then we'll go to the zoo! I want to take you to the ocean and build a huge sand castle where we'll spend the rest of our lives! Sounds like too much for a start, doesn't it? Just a torso Why they're clicking "next": Recent polls show that men with a torso on the photo are extremely popular among ladies when it comes to score, but that doesn't mean you are going to be successful just with snaps of your abs only.
Such profiles usually belong to profiles looking for one night stand with all the potential consequences like STD etc.
If you are one of them, come on, but don't cry when you catch something.
The "generaliser" phenomenon.
Just "hey, what's up?" could definitely kill your relationship before it even starts.
Why no one wants you? Don't be stupid or possibly illiterate.
I believe in a better part of you.
What's going on with you? Something cool? OK, tell your partner about that, instead.
Nothing at all? Go out and cultivate a hobby of some sort, and then get back to your partner again.
Perhaps it will be another person, but this doesn't matter.
Success is measured by the number of failures you had in the past!
People who aren't entirely stupid, I mean.
And the place where that stupidity has the most opportunity to shine is, of course, your first words in a message to a potential admirer.
Well, it doesn't mean that online dating makes you a creepy wash-out.
Your butterfly collection does.
I was always successful with the opposite sex and hooked up anywhere along my way home or to work.
No matter what I was doing or where I was going I was always alert for an opportunity.
But dating online is somewhat completely different.
If you didn't know yet, I'll explain.
Most of people are trolling through photos and making an instant decision by weeding out the following three main types of swains: woman holding a baby, "just a torso and simply not my type.
And even in case somebody considers you attractive a burlesque of your first message can ruin all chances of romance.
Your epistle doesn't have to be Pulitzer-worthy, by any means -- although spell check really doesn't hurt -- but there's a whole passel of openers that will get you deleted from a digital dater's heart.
Your photo.
A person behind the mask.
Uploading a picture from this year's Halloween can be a good way to show your "fun part" to potential swain.
However, when your profile snap depicts you dressed as a bank clerk Stanley Ipkiss, transformed into a manic super-hero when he wears a mysterious mask, the ladies would certainly get confused.
When choosing a main profile photo, make sure to show the folks what you look like in everyday life, not just October 31.
Either that or do a gonzo makeover quickly.
A creepy snap of a dude sitting on a yellow vinyl couch.
An overexposed photo of a girl in sunglasses posing in front of the Liberty Statue.
An opaque, red-eyed snap of a dude with a bottle of beer in his hand.
These images are not even worthy of your Flickr account.
Why? Because they might as well be of anyone else in the world.
Nobody is interested in your autobiography.
If you come up and say: Hi! My name is Paul! I moved to California from Wyoming three years ago and I'm loving it! I walk my 3-year-old Labrador Retriever along Sunset Boulevard every evening at 6 p.
m! If you sit down at a bar and tell someone your hours long life story you'll soon find yourself sitting there alone.
Why no one wants you? Well, what else is there to find out about you? You unveiled all your trumps at the first date.
Your partner feels like she's already dated you, and gets bored the first time around.
You'd better choose something you and your partner have in common and start with that.
You'll have loads of time later to run out of things to tell.
May be you are an "eccentric" and overreacting.
For instance you may say: Come here, cutie, let me fix your collar! I'm going to take you down to the playground and push you on the swings! And then we'll go to the zoo! I want to take you to the ocean and build a huge sand castle where we'll spend the rest of our lives! Sounds like too much for a start, doesn't it? Just a torso Why they're clicking "next": Recent polls show that men with a torso on the photo are extremely popular among ladies when it comes to score, but that doesn't mean you are going to be successful just with snaps of your abs only.
Such profiles usually belong to profiles looking for one night stand with all the potential consequences like STD etc.
If you are one of them, come on, but don't cry when you catch something.
The "generaliser" phenomenon.
Just "hey, what's up?" could definitely kill your relationship before it even starts.
Why no one wants you? Don't be stupid or possibly illiterate.
I believe in a better part of you.
What's going on with you? Something cool? OK, tell your partner about that, instead.
Nothing at all? Go out and cultivate a hobby of some sort, and then get back to your partner again.
Perhaps it will be another person, but this doesn't matter.
Success is measured by the number of failures you had in the past!
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