• We have to be in it for the long haul and not just a booty call.
  

The decision should be made in the beginning of the relationship whether or not its just a fling.
I am not saying till death do us part from the get go.
There needs to be an understanding of what the intentions of both partners are.
How do we tell the other person that we are looking for a potential life partner? We can use a question to feel out the other person; such as, I can see us growing old together do you feel the same way? There are no easy questions when dealing with human relationships.
It is work and you feel awkward and exposed when you ask these kind of questions, because love is risk and you have to be willing to risk it all when showing someone else your feelings for them.
It is vulnerability that creates intimacy when it is received with compassion.
To answer the question there needs to be mature, honest, adult communication.

• Couples that play together stay together.
  

Men and women are different and unique in there choices of play and entertainment.
This fact should not be a barrier in a relationship when it comes to activities that both can do together.
Guys are big on recreational companionship and girls are big on relational building activities like sharing intimate details of their day.
Why not do a recreational / relational building activity, like going hiking to a camp area and bringing a picnic with you.
Or going to play disc golf.
Both activities allow for some physical exertion and relational conversation.
Depending on the level of athleticism of both partners you should choose activities that both can do and make sure it allows for interaction.
If you can not find something that you both enjoy, then try learning a new sport or activity together.

• Love making happens in more ways than one.
  

As you share time together, be mindful of how your partner expresses their love toward you.
If they like to do things for you, then chances are he/she would like to receive the same gesture.
This applies to any expression of love.
There are personality quizzes, love language assessments and other tools that can be used to help you determine both of your tendencies.
There is no shame in using these tools and has no bearing on either ones ability to logically deduct the above mentioned traits.
This knowledge sets you up for emotional stability and creates a loving environment that fosters a satisfying sex life.