Negative emotions go much deeper than what is expressed and seen on the outside of us.
If one is unhappy in their life, their surroundings, or in a particular situation, there is most often something that causes negativity to surface into our lives.
Unresolved, pain, hurt, and anger, are strong negative emotions that cause us insecurity, depression and unhappiness.
As human beings, we often allow our emotions to get the best of us and to rule how we behave.
We are often not aware of the deep-rooted feelings that we have inside that cause us to be negative or dissatisfied or unhappy.
When we are hurt, we sometimes push our pain deep down inside ourselves and we try to forget it; but by doing this, we develop other emotions to take root which negatively affects our personalities.
When we are deeply hurt, for example: and we do not deal with the pain that we experience, we suppress our hurt and that pain is transferred into more unhealthy emotions, such as anger, resentment, and bitterness.
The result of this is reflected in our everyday lives, in is evident in the way that we think, respond to others, and deal with life in general.
Unresolved emotions over a period of time change who we are.
One of the most harmful emotions is the emotion of unforgiveness.
Unforgiveness harbors ill feelings deep within us, towards another person.
Unforgiveness is like a poison, it moves through our body and prevents us from functioning efficiently.
Unforgiveness affects every aspect of our lives.
When one holds grudges because of unforgiveness, it then creates other harmful emotions to surface, one of which is bitterness.
Bitterness on the other hand leads to other very negative emotions such as spite, anger, and hatred.
These emotions unfortunately are some of the unhealthiest emotions.
Having unforgiveness eventually causes a domino effect from one unhealthy emotion to another, therefore leaving a person damaged in their emotions, and leaving them vulnerable to much unhappiness and chaos in their lives.
When someone is damaged in their emotions, it will undoubtedly cause them to be held back from many good things they could have attained in their lives.
What then is necessary for us to have healthy positive emotions? When we are hurt, we need to deal with it quickly.
It is important not to run from it, but instead, face it head on immediately, with the intent to resolve it.
Do not take on the mindset of one who does not like confrontation, running from confronting the issue is what causes ill feelings and emotions.
To resolve problems, we must confront the one who hurt you in a mature and reasonable way.
We must speak in a way that expresses our pain, and how we are feeling, without accusing or criticizing them; which can cause them to become defensive..
Often times, the one who hurt you does not realize that they have offended you and therefore, they need to be made aware that you were hurt, so that resolution can come.
Sharing your feeling with them should be received in a positive way, which will resolve the problem.
In most cases, the other person will be glad that you came to them to share how you are feeling, and they will be happy to talk it out with you.
Talking it over with them will prevent suppressing negative feelings, and will therefore avoid those feelings from becoming deep- rooted emotional problems.
Once the situation is resolved, a person can move forward in freedom, with a feeling of contentment.
Emotions are positive or negative, they are healthy, or unhealthy, we have the choice how we will handle them.
We must be willing not to hold back or deny how we truly feel.
It is very important to recognize and acknowledge what we are feeling.
When we accomplish that, we will be able to work through issues in our lives in a healthy, stable manner, and our lives will be richer, fuller, and happier because of it.