Sometimes, learning who your real friends are can be a harsh lesson, one that you probably wish you did not have to deal with. It usually happens in times of trouble, when you really need that friend to lean on and get support from. The ones who are there are your real friends and the ones who seem to be missing in action are the ones that will disappoint you, but now you know where you really stand with them.
Part of the disappointment that comes from learning who your real friends are is the fact that you evaluated or judged them wrong. I can remember a really hard time in my life several years back when a few of the guys I would unquestionably call a friend seemed to just disappear when I needed them and as much as it hurt that they did this, it also stung to realize that I had misjudged them pretty badly.
People will come and go in this life, but the ones who stick around are the ones that you really need to appreciate. They are the ones who embody what it means to be buddies and what it means to have true friendship. Learning who the real ones are and then how to judge people a little better is not just good for the pals you have, it can also help you out in many other situations.
It happens a lot in work situations when a promotion comes up and suddenly two people that are unquestionably pals suddenly will start to do things to outshine or even attack the other person. While this cannot always be avoided, when you learn to recognize who is a real friend and who is not, it can help you to see through whatever workplace facade there is and know that you really can or cannot count on this person.
It also helps in our personal relationships, our more intimate ones. Many men have had the experience of getting a girlfriend and then when things got a little tough financially for them, she was quick to head for the door. That's one of the most disappointing and even hurtful moments that a guy can go through and it can even leave him bitter.
When you know how to recognize who the real people are, the ones that will not just leave when things get tough, that can help you to learn how to attract the right woman into your life if you are a guy and the right man into your life if you are a woman. And most importantly, it can help you to appreciate that person just a little bit more and maybe even overlook a few little flaws that they might have.
Part of the disappointment that comes from learning who your real friends are is the fact that you evaluated or judged them wrong. I can remember a really hard time in my life several years back when a few of the guys I would unquestionably call a friend seemed to just disappear when I needed them and as much as it hurt that they did this, it also stung to realize that I had misjudged them pretty badly.
People will come and go in this life, but the ones who stick around are the ones that you really need to appreciate. They are the ones who embody what it means to be buddies and what it means to have true friendship. Learning who the real ones are and then how to judge people a little better is not just good for the pals you have, it can also help you out in many other situations.
It happens a lot in work situations when a promotion comes up and suddenly two people that are unquestionably pals suddenly will start to do things to outshine or even attack the other person. While this cannot always be avoided, when you learn to recognize who is a real friend and who is not, it can help you to see through whatever workplace facade there is and know that you really can or cannot count on this person.
It also helps in our personal relationships, our more intimate ones. Many men have had the experience of getting a girlfriend and then when things got a little tough financially for them, she was quick to head for the door. That's one of the most disappointing and even hurtful moments that a guy can go through and it can even leave him bitter.
When you know how to recognize who the real people are, the ones that will not just leave when things get tough, that can help you to learn how to attract the right woman into your life if you are a guy and the right man into your life if you are a woman. And most importantly, it can help you to appreciate that person just a little bit more and maybe even overlook a few little flaws that they might have.
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