I'm sure it's not a surprise to anyone that planning a wedding and all the details that go with it can be quite stressful.
One of the keys to avoiding a complete meltdown from wedding stress is to first understand the causes.
In this article, we'll take a look at the top 5 wedding stressors and some of the ways that you can cope with them (or avoid them altogether).
Wedding Planners Though wedding planners are supposed to be there to help you get through all of your plans and design the perfect day, they can also cause you to pull your hair out.
Usually this happens when you don't agree with them about certain choices or details.
They may also suggest options that are more costly which can quickly cause your budget to get out of hand.
Don't be afraid to say "no" and get them to find alternatives.
Always remember that you're paying them and they work for you.
Bad Relationships On Your Guest List Not everyone gets along.
Certain "issues" may exist between people on your guest list.
These include those who are divorced or simply don't like each other.
Not knowing how these people are going to react to each other at your wedding can be a nagging source of wedding stress.
A simple way to head off any problems is to courteously remind them that you understand the bad blood but would appreciate it if they could set it aside for your wedding.
Outside Opinions Everyone who learns about the details of your wedding is going to have their own opinions and ideas about how things should look or be.
Some of these folks are going to be more adamant about their ideas that others and these are the ones who cause the most wedding stress.
The key here is to stick to your guns.
This is YOUR wedding and things should be as YOU want them.
Some ideas will be useful and you may want to implement them but most will probably not.
When these comments come in (and they will) simply let them know that's an "interesting idea" but also let them know the plans for that particular item are already set and decided on.
Parents of the Bride and Groom Yours and your fiance's parents can often be the biggest source of wedding stress.
There are too many reason to list them all here but most often, the stress comes from them wanting to be intimately involved.
If one set of parents is paying the lion's share for your ceremony, they may feel entitled to have a say.
Another key motivator for stress from parents is if they don't approve of the person you're marrying.
This can be especially hard to overcome but it you need to stay strong and not let it torpedo your big day.
Give parents something to do and be responsible for so they stay involved.
But make it clear to them that the wedding will go on and you will need them to help you and not stress you out.
Your Partner Perhaps the biggest source of wedding stress is between you and the person you plan to marry.
Not agreeing on certain details and costs can lead to easy arguments and frustration.
The key to avoiding this type of stress is to plan carefully.
Make each other responsible for certain things.
Make lists.
And whatever you do, have an initial budget and try hard to stick with it.
In the end, it's important for you both to remember what your wedding is all about and that it is a happy occasion that celebrates your love for one another.
By keeping that at the forefront of all your planning and reminding yourself when problems arise, you've already won half the battle against wedding stress.
One of the keys to avoiding a complete meltdown from wedding stress is to first understand the causes.
In this article, we'll take a look at the top 5 wedding stressors and some of the ways that you can cope with them (or avoid them altogether).
Wedding Planners Though wedding planners are supposed to be there to help you get through all of your plans and design the perfect day, they can also cause you to pull your hair out.
Usually this happens when you don't agree with them about certain choices or details.
They may also suggest options that are more costly which can quickly cause your budget to get out of hand.
Don't be afraid to say "no" and get them to find alternatives.
Always remember that you're paying them and they work for you.
Bad Relationships On Your Guest List Not everyone gets along.
Certain "issues" may exist between people on your guest list.
These include those who are divorced or simply don't like each other.
Not knowing how these people are going to react to each other at your wedding can be a nagging source of wedding stress.
A simple way to head off any problems is to courteously remind them that you understand the bad blood but would appreciate it if they could set it aside for your wedding.
Outside Opinions Everyone who learns about the details of your wedding is going to have their own opinions and ideas about how things should look or be.
Some of these folks are going to be more adamant about their ideas that others and these are the ones who cause the most wedding stress.
The key here is to stick to your guns.
This is YOUR wedding and things should be as YOU want them.
Some ideas will be useful and you may want to implement them but most will probably not.
When these comments come in (and they will) simply let them know that's an "interesting idea" but also let them know the plans for that particular item are already set and decided on.
Parents of the Bride and Groom Yours and your fiance's parents can often be the biggest source of wedding stress.
There are too many reason to list them all here but most often, the stress comes from them wanting to be intimately involved.
If one set of parents is paying the lion's share for your ceremony, they may feel entitled to have a say.
Another key motivator for stress from parents is if they don't approve of the person you're marrying.
This can be especially hard to overcome but it you need to stay strong and not let it torpedo your big day.
Give parents something to do and be responsible for so they stay involved.
But make it clear to them that the wedding will go on and you will need them to help you and not stress you out.
Your Partner Perhaps the biggest source of wedding stress is between you and the person you plan to marry.
Not agreeing on certain details and costs can lead to easy arguments and frustration.
The key to avoiding this type of stress is to plan carefully.
Make each other responsible for certain things.
Make lists.
And whatever you do, have an initial budget and try hard to stick with it.
In the end, it's important for you both to remember what your wedding is all about and that it is a happy occasion that celebrates your love for one another.
By keeping that at the forefront of all your planning and reminding yourself when problems arise, you've already won half the battle against wedding stress.
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