A divorce affects not only the father and mother, but perhaps has the greatest impact on the children.
All children are left scarred by the divorce though some might bear up stoically with few demonstrative signs.
Here are some suggestions for a freshly divorced father: 1.
Check with a counselor or someone who advises post-divorce parents.
Ascertain the psychological implications of such an occurrence on children.
Seek guidance on how best to treat children after such a traumatic event, to guide them through this upheaval in their lives.
2.
Try and maintain a close relationship with children.
Children will expect you to spend more time.
Learn of the advantages and disadvantages of staying near to your ex-wife and children.
3.
If you as the father are not the custodian of the children, you will have to make custodial payments.
Learn about child support, how it is calculated, managed and enforced.
Learn about your rights as a divorced father.
4.
You might have been lucky enough to have been awarded joint custody.
Learn from experts or others in the same boat as to how this works and what makes the relationship a success.
5.
Even if you are located far away from the children, stay connected.
It is important for the children to know that you are always with them, that you care and you love them.
6.
Savor visitation times.
Make every moment with you memorable to the children.
Give them something to cherish so they'll look forward to the next occasion.
7.
When you are ready to start dating again, find out how best to go about it.
Introductions from mutual friends or joining a hobby group will be a good place to meet someone with a like-minded interest who is not a speculator.
When it is time, introduce her to the children slowly so that they can adjust to a new phase in your life.