First dates are tough. When you don't know a person very well but are attracted enough to want to spend time alone with him or her, the desire to impress wars with the desire to just be yourself. There's also that fine line between being too needy and being too aloof, either of which attitude might stop you from getting a second date. How do you plan a good first date without sending your intended scurrying for cover?
Traditionally, men have been the ones who must have the courage to ask a girl out, as well as arrange the events and pay for it. That's a lot of pressure, which is why the ubiquitous dinner-and-a-movie is so popular. And there's nothing wrong with dinner and a movie. There's still room for entertaining conversation, and if sparks are flying, sitting in a dark theater close to each other does provide some good arm around the shoulders, hand holding, or even quiet smooching opportunities. On the other hand, at some point, you're going to have to come up with some other plan because dinner and a movie gets old pretty quickly.
The obvious thing to do is to find an activity that provides common ground. If you met each other while participating in a sporting event, perhaps you'll find that you both love hiking, and you can plan a hike with a picnic in some scenic area. Perhaps the theater is more your style; signing up the two of you for a class in improv comedy will get you out of your comfort zones and laughing. Trying something new to both of you is a good bonding tool. You can always follow up with dinner and a movie.
Planning a whole day date is exciting, but timing is everything. You need to have both up times and down times so that the date doesn't feel either frenetically busy or tediously slow, so sit down and sketch out activities that make sense. For instance, starting with an early morning walk on the beach, followed by breakfast might be a good beginning. The late morning could include bike riding, laser tag, boating, or some other sport that demands teamwork and allows for interaction, and lunch could be a picnic under a shady tree in a beautiful park. Leave some time in the afternoon for a break from each other (hopefully, this will give each of you time to look forward with anticipation to seeing each other again; you don't want date fatigue to ruin everything!), and then dress up for a nice dinner and a show in the evening.
Dates don't even have to be that formal. Running errands can be a date if you find the company stimulating and exciting, as well as shopping for some big ticket item; it's even better if your date has some expertise in what you're looking for. This will make it far more enjoyable than if one of you has no interest or knowledge at all and searching out just the right computer or car or scuba gear will take a long time. If your date has no interest in whatever it is you're looking for, it's better to shop another time. You might, however, be willing to go and look at things about which you have no interest merely because the man or woman you would like to get to know is keen to see antiques or flowers or old cars or cute little bunnies.
Taking a first-time date to a group setting, such as a wedding reception or family function, a multi-couple date, or party is something you need to be careful about. If your date does not know any of the people who will be attending, he will probably feel quite shy and reserved, especially if you take off and leave him alone while you have long conversations with others. Even if you are together but you are involved in tons of in-jokes and conversational topics about which she knows nothing, she will feel she has little to contribute and will most likely wish to be anywhere else but there. It's a very rare type of person who enjoys being dumped into a social event and expected to be outgoing and friendly with strangers for hours on end, and chances are your date is not one of them. Unless you have specifically asked permission and explained the reason why your first date needs to be at such an event, it's better to take someone else or go alone. While you might feel more comfortable surrounded by people you know – you might also feel a little nervous about being alone with your date – you can bet your date is wishing you could spend some time alone. It might even be enough to stop a second date from happening. (It's also a bad sign for a future second date if he or she is relieved you're not around much.)
Conversational topics on a first date should not revolve around yourself to the exclusion of anyone else. Ideally, both of you should be so fascinated with the other that conversation flows quickly and easily from topic to topic, allowing both of you to share your thoughts and ideas about a wide range of subjects. If you feel the need to dominate the conversation incessantly in order to brag about accomplishments, expound at length on your opinions, or try to one-up your date, she is not going to be nearly as enthralled as you might expect, and will probably find some excuse to go home early.
There are occasions in which you find yourself in another city and need a date to take to a work event or party; you might also wish to impress others with a beautiful person hanging on your arm and on your every word. Whether you happen to be in New York, Houston, or Chicago, escorts are available for hire. These men and women are accomplished conversationalists and are physically attractive, putting you and others around you at ease.
While the anticipation of a first date can be nerve-wracking, a little planning and knowing something of the interests of your intended can help you pull off an enjoyable occasion.
Traditionally, men have been the ones who must have the courage to ask a girl out, as well as arrange the events and pay for it. That's a lot of pressure, which is why the ubiquitous dinner-and-a-movie is so popular. And there's nothing wrong with dinner and a movie. There's still room for entertaining conversation, and if sparks are flying, sitting in a dark theater close to each other does provide some good arm around the shoulders, hand holding, or even quiet smooching opportunities. On the other hand, at some point, you're going to have to come up with some other plan because dinner and a movie gets old pretty quickly.
The obvious thing to do is to find an activity that provides common ground. If you met each other while participating in a sporting event, perhaps you'll find that you both love hiking, and you can plan a hike with a picnic in some scenic area. Perhaps the theater is more your style; signing up the two of you for a class in improv comedy will get you out of your comfort zones and laughing. Trying something new to both of you is a good bonding tool. You can always follow up with dinner and a movie.
Planning a whole day date is exciting, but timing is everything. You need to have both up times and down times so that the date doesn't feel either frenetically busy or tediously slow, so sit down and sketch out activities that make sense. For instance, starting with an early morning walk on the beach, followed by breakfast might be a good beginning. The late morning could include bike riding, laser tag, boating, or some other sport that demands teamwork and allows for interaction, and lunch could be a picnic under a shady tree in a beautiful park. Leave some time in the afternoon for a break from each other (hopefully, this will give each of you time to look forward with anticipation to seeing each other again; you don't want date fatigue to ruin everything!), and then dress up for a nice dinner and a show in the evening.
Dates don't even have to be that formal. Running errands can be a date if you find the company stimulating and exciting, as well as shopping for some big ticket item; it's even better if your date has some expertise in what you're looking for. This will make it far more enjoyable than if one of you has no interest or knowledge at all and searching out just the right computer or car or scuba gear will take a long time. If your date has no interest in whatever it is you're looking for, it's better to shop another time. You might, however, be willing to go and look at things about which you have no interest merely because the man or woman you would like to get to know is keen to see antiques or flowers or old cars or cute little bunnies.
Taking a first-time date to a group setting, such as a wedding reception or family function, a multi-couple date, or party is something you need to be careful about. If your date does not know any of the people who will be attending, he will probably feel quite shy and reserved, especially if you take off and leave him alone while you have long conversations with others. Even if you are together but you are involved in tons of in-jokes and conversational topics about which she knows nothing, she will feel she has little to contribute and will most likely wish to be anywhere else but there. It's a very rare type of person who enjoys being dumped into a social event and expected to be outgoing and friendly with strangers for hours on end, and chances are your date is not one of them. Unless you have specifically asked permission and explained the reason why your first date needs to be at such an event, it's better to take someone else or go alone. While you might feel more comfortable surrounded by people you know – you might also feel a little nervous about being alone with your date – you can bet your date is wishing you could spend some time alone. It might even be enough to stop a second date from happening. (It's also a bad sign for a future second date if he or she is relieved you're not around much.)
Conversational topics on a first date should not revolve around yourself to the exclusion of anyone else. Ideally, both of you should be so fascinated with the other that conversation flows quickly and easily from topic to topic, allowing both of you to share your thoughts and ideas about a wide range of subjects. If you feel the need to dominate the conversation incessantly in order to brag about accomplishments, expound at length on your opinions, or try to one-up your date, she is not going to be nearly as enthralled as you might expect, and will probably find some excuse to go home early.
There are occasions in which you find yourself in another city and need a date to take to a work event or party; you might also wish to impress others with a beautiful person hanging on your arm and on your every word. Whether you happen to be in New York, Houston, or Chicago, escorts are available for hire. These men and women are accomplished conversationalists and are physically attractive, putting you and others around you at ease.
While the anticipation of a first date can be nerve-wracking, a little planning and knowing something of the interests of your intended can help you pull off an enjoyable occasion.
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