Going through a rough time like a hard breakup can really send you into a panic. You may find yourself making some serious mistakes that in retrospect seem obvious but at the time were just a natural reaction. Here are three of the ones that can really cripple your chances to get your ex back, so that you can do your best to catch yourself before you make them!
1) It's important to keep a good distance between you two for about a month after the breakup. By "a good distance" I mean absolutely no contact at all, if possible. Sometimes situations occur that stick you together unavoidably, but if at all possible you have to cut contact completely. Being too close to him at this point will only serve to cause abrasion between you and make conflicts flare up worse, while being apart will usually result in both of you missing one another and giving more thought to the idea of the breakup. Trust me, back off...it may not seem like the logical choice but it truly does help.
2) Drugs and alcohol are no solution to breakup pain. If anything, they actually make it worse! Alcohol is a depressant, which is why a lot of people drink it to relax. This isn't what you're after if you're feeling depressed already though, and it'll just bottom you out. Being in that kind of state is dangerous, both to your health and to your potential for getting your ex back. It can lead to some serious mistakes like "Drunk Dialing." Search for other, healthier ways to deal with your pain.
3) Heaping too much attention on your ex is a really bad idea. This is somewhat related to the first mistake I mentioned, but this can apply to before or after the month of no contact, during a time when you are actually communicating. The problem is that during a fragile time like this, it's really easy to push your ex away...and it's also really easy to start resorting to "desperate mode," at which point you make all kinds of "get-your-ex-back" suicide moves. One of the most common blunders is "text-message terrorism," and I'm sure you can imagine from the name both what it is and how it can feel to be attacked by it.
These are by no means the only things people can do to mess up their chances at getting their exes back, but they're probably the ones at the core of why most relationships that are fully salvageable end up being finished permanently. If you avoid these mistakes and others like them, as well as play your cards properly...you could very soon be once more enjoying a satisfying and blissful life alongside the one you love. I wish you the best of luck in pulling things back together!
Are you making these mistakes with your ex? Watch these How to Get Your Ex Back videos that not only show you how to avoid these common mistakes but how to fix them fast if you have already made these blunders.
1) It's important to keep a good distance between you two for about a month after the breakup. By "a good distance" I mean absolutely no contact at all, if possible. Sometimes situations occur that stick you together unavoidably, but if at all possible you have to cut contact completely. Being too close to him at this point will only serve to cause abrasion between you and make conflicts flare up worse, while being apart will usually result in both of you missing one another and giving more thought to the idea of the breakup. Trust me, back off...it may not seem like the logical choice but it truly does help.
2) Drugs and alcohol are no solution to breakup pain. If anything, they actually make it worse! Alcohol is a depressant, which is why a lot of people drink it to relax. This isn't what you're after if you're feeling depressed already though, and it'll just bottom you out. Being in that kind of state is dangerous, both to your health and to your potential for getting your ex back. It can lead to some serious mistakes like "Drunk Dialing." Search for other, healthier ways to deal with your pain.
3) Heaping too much attention on your ex is a really bad idea. This is somewhat related to the first mistake I mentioned, but this can apply to before or after the month of no contact, during a time when you are actually communicating. The problem is that during a fragile time like this, it's really easy to push your ex away...and it's also really easy to start resorting to "desperate mode," at which point you make all kinds of "get-your-ex-back" suicide moves. One of the most common blunders is "text-message terrorism," and I'm sure you can imagine from the name both what it is and how it can feel to be attacked by it.
These are by no means the only things people can do to mess up their chances at getting their exes back, but they're probably the ones at the core of why most relationships that are fully salvageable end up being finished permanently. If you avoid these mistakes and others like them, as well as play your cards properly...you could very soon be once more enjoying a satisfying and blissful life alongside the one you love. I wish you the best of luck in pulling things back together!
Are you making these mistakes with your ex? Watch these How to Get Your Ex Back videos that not only show you how to avoid these common mistakes but how to fix them fast if you have already made these blunders.
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