When you set out to make more friends, fewer things will add more leverage to this, that becoming a leader of other people.
Leaders are talked about, and looked at more than others.
There's more buzz about leaders than anyone else.
When you are a leader, you have higher situational status, and meeting more "exclusive" people becomes easier.
There are many (useless) books on the subject of leadership.
Bottom line, leaders have two qualities that I will discuss in this post.
Charisma and charm.
Charisma First of all, I don't think that charisma and charm are similar things.
Each serves a different purpose.
My best definition for charisma is this: someone with charisma is someone who acts with such conviction, that other people follow.
Charisma is the number one quality found in all leaders.
If you want to make friends with greater ease, it pays to have charisma.
Charisma comes from not caring what other people think about you.
You cannot let other peoples opinions affect you.
Remember, people are silently looking to be lead anyway.
They are unsure of what to do and believe.
They mostly believe what everyone else seems to believe, but they are not willing to defend most of the things they belief.
I consider charisma to be the opposite of caring what other people think.
Charisma is a conviction in one's own beliefs and standards.
It requires an identity that is rooted in oneself.
Caring what other people think requires an identity rooted in other people.
You don't need a reason to have it, you must just have it, and people will act accordingly.
There's an old saying from one of my many mentors, "If you do anything with enough authority, you'll get away with it.
" This is true, people are hardwired to respond to authority and conviction.
Conviction trumps logic and morality most of the time.
When the church emphatically rejected that the earth was not the center of the universe, Copernicus was laughed at and ridiculed.
Of course it turns out he was right all along...
People are hardwired to respond to charisma.
In prehistoric times, it was the most charismatic person who was able to make the fast and hard decisions that would lead the tribe to safety.
Charisma is a cherished quality.
It is even associated with the divine.
The word comes from the greek word kharis, which means, "favored by God".
People with charisma were said to have the ability to communicate directly to god.
Here's the practical side to charisma: Do not look to other people to make a decision.
Act with authority and conviction.
Speak with strength and conviction Strengthen your gaze.
Believe in your own beliefs fervently.
Any hesitation and others lose faith.
Act with certainty Be decisive Charm.
Charm is the ability to flatter other people.
People like you as a result of charming them.
In order to charm people you must be attentive.
You must pay attention to the subtle dynamics that go on around you.
There are lots of ways to charm people.
In this respect, I'd say that charm is much more complicated that charisma.
I have one method which I use that gets me great results: I give other people a fine reputation to live up to.
Most people have some quality that they desperately want to be acknowledged for.
In my experience, it is the qualities that people have the least confidence about that are their strongest.
The key to giving people a fine reputation to live up to, is that you have to believe what you are saying.
It cannot be faked, or people will resent you for it.
Personally, I hold a core belief in excellence.
I believe in excellence, and I look for other people's excellence.
I know everyone has the potential to be great, most people have a much lower opinion of their own potential that I do.
When I talk to people, I look for their "hidden talent".
Usually people are really good at something and they are unaware of it.
I point out what they haven't yet noticed.
When I do, magic happens.
There is nothing that inspires more loyalty and gratitude in someone, than when you make them realize that they could be much better than they thought they could be.
I met the renowned speaker and self help author Les Brown once, and the first thing he did, was remark on my strong voice, and then if I remember correctly he pointed out some leadership quality that I possessed.
I knew he was trying to flatter me, but I also noticed that it was working.
When you master the arts of charm and charisma people will follow you with joy.
If you want to learn more about making friends, and becoming a better leader, then be sure to check out my blog!
Leaders are talked about, and looked at more than others.
There's more buzz about leaders than anyone else.
When you are a leader, you have higher situational status, and meeting more "exclusive" people becomes easier.
There are many (useless) books on the subject of leadership.
Bottom line, leaders have two qualities that I will discuss in this post.
Charisma and charm.
Charisma First of all, I don't think that charisma and charm are similar things.
Each serves a different purpose.
My best definition for charisma is this: someone with charisma is someone who acts with such conviction, that other people follow.
Charisma is the number one quality found in all leaders.
If you want to make friends with greater ease, it pays to have charisma.
Charisma comes from not caring what other people think about you.
You cannot let other peoples opinions affect you.
Remember, people are silently looking to be lead anyway.
They are unsure of what to do and believe.
They mostly believe what everyone else seems to believe, but they are not willing to defend most of the things they belief.
I consider charisma to be the opposite of caring what other people think.
Charisma is a conviction in one's own beliefs and standards.
It requires an identity that is rooted in oneself.
Caring what other people think requires an identity rooted in other people.
You don't need a reason to have it, you must just have it, and people will act accordingly.
There's an old saying from one of my many mentors, "If you do anything with enough authority, you'll get away with it.
" This is true, people are hardwired to respond to authority and conviction.
Conviction trumps logic and morality most of the time.
When the church emphatically rejected that the earth was not the center of the universe, Copernicus was laughed at and ridiculed.
Of course it turns out he was right all along...
People are hardwired to respond to charisma.
In prehistoric times, it was the most charismatic person who was able to make the fast and hard decisions that would lead the tribe to safety.
Charisma is a cherished quality.
It is even associated with the divine.
The word comes from the greek word kharis, which means, "favored by God".
People with charisma were said to have the ability to communicate directly to god.
Here's the practical side to charisma: Do not look to other people to make a decision.
Act with authority and conviction.
Speak with strength and conviction Strengthen your gaze.
Believe in your own beliefs fervently.
Any hesitation and others lose faith.
Act with certainty Be decisive Charm.
Charm is the ability to flatter other people.
People like you as a result of charming them.
In order to charm people you must be attentive.
You must pay attention to the subtle dynamics that go on around you.
There are lots of ways to charm people.
In this respect, I'd say that charm is much more complicated that charisma.
I have one method which I use that gets me great results: I give other people a fine reputation to live up to.
Most people have some quality that they desperately want to be acknowledged for.
In my experience, it is the qualities that people have the least confidence about that are their strongest.
The key to giving people a fine reputation to live up to, is that you have to believe what you are saying.
It cannot be faked, or people will resent you for it.
Personally, I hold a core belief in excellence.
I believe in excellence, and I look for other people's excellence.
I know everyone has the potential to be great, most people have a much lower opinion of their own potential that I do.
When I talk to people, I look for their "hidden talent".
Usually people are really good at something and they are unaware of it.
I point out what they haven't yet noticed.
When I do, magic happens.
There is nothing that inspires more loyalty and gratitude in someone, than when you make them realize that they could be much better than they thought they could be.
I met the renowned speaker and self help author Les Brown once, and the first thing he did, was remark on my strong voice, and then if I remember correctly he pointed out some leadership quality that I possessed.
I knew he was trying to flatter me, but I also noticed that it was working.
When you master the arts of charm and charisma people will follow you with joy.
If you want to learn more about making friends, and becoming a better leader, then be sure to check out my blog!
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