- 1). Contact your friend and let them know that you're thinking of them. Find a moment in the day where you have time to focus on your friend and contact them by phone, email, text or instant message. Obviously, contacting by phone is more personal than some of the other methods of communication; however, a simply email or text can also let someone know that you're thinking of them. By contacting them without needing or wanting something, you're gesturing that you're truly interested in how they're doing.
- 2). Ask him questions about himself. For a friend to feel cared for, he needs the opportunity to share with you what's going on in his life. Asking simple questions such as "How've you been?" or "How's your day going?" gives him that opportunity.
- 3). Listen to what your friend is saying. Many times people have one-way conversations where one party is simply waiting for the second party to stop talking so that the first party can hijack the conversation. Instead of having a one-way conversation, listen and respond thoughtfully to the verbal or written exchange that you're having with the other person.
- 4). Offer assistance with something that they want or need. If someone shares a problem with you, offer to help her with that problem. For instance, if your friend's car broke down, offer to drive her to work. If your friend is hosting a large dinner party, offer to come early and help her in the kitchen. By offering assistance for a want or need, you're giving her a sign that you care about something important that's going on in her life.
- 5). Follow-up after your conversation. By reaching out to the person a second time, you make him feel as if you truly care and send a signal that he's important in your life as well. For example, after the conversation is over, send a follow-up email or text telling him how much you appreciate him or how much you enjoyed the earlier conversation you had together. If you promised your friend you would help him do something, then make sure that you complete the task.
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