Shyness and anxiety in social settings is something that affects millions of people every day.
At events or other social gatherings, people with S.
A.
D feel like they are the only ones that are struggling in that situation.
But they aren't alone and don't need to feel that way.
Everyone has an emotional 'closet' where they hide things from others and frequently even from themselves.
Have you ever wanted to ask a question at a seminar but were afraid to because you thought it might be dumb? Then someone asked your exact question and the presenter said something like, "That was an excellent question!" In fact, shyness and a moderate level of social anxiety is a common feeling in humanity.
I believe the problem lies in the mind of the person that is experiencing extreme feelings like these.
They believe that they are the only ones that feel this way and that everyone is looking at them and judging them on a constant basis.
This is not true, but thinking it is true makes it true for us.
Every day, millions of people don't live their lives to the fullest because they are fearful of how others view them or may judge them.
They shouldn't be concerned because most of the time people are not paying any attention to anyone else besides themselves.
The reality is that most people are so focused on themselves they rarely care about or consider others.
However, in the mind of the person with the social anxiety disorder is the belief that everyone is watching them and even worse - judging them - constantly.
This feeling is something that is deeply disturbing to them and they are not able to be fully functional in social settings.
If someone wants to overcome these feelings of shyness and social anxiety, then I believe they are going to have to make efforts to talk to many different people.
The best way to begin this is to start small at first, then work your way up.
Go to a small cocktail party with a hand full of people.
Engage at least one person in a quick, one-on-one conversation.
Once comfortable there, then work up to a slightly larger group, and talk to at least 3 people.
Then go to a group where you don't know many or anyone.
You may need to repeat each step several times.
You know the expression - do take that one step at a time, and before you know it you will be the person that you have always wanted to be.
Remember if you engage with people, they will engage with you.
At events or other social gatherings, people with S.
A.
D feel like they are the only ones that are struggling in that situation.
But they aren't alone and don't need to feel that way.
Everyone has an emotional 'closet' where they hide things from others and frequently even from themselves.
Have you ever wanted to ask a question at a seminar but were afraid to because you thought it might be dumb? Then someone asked your exact question and the presenter said something like, "That was an excellent question!" In fact, shyness and a moderate level of social anxiety is a common feeling in humanity.
I believe the problem lies in the mind of the person that is experiencing extreme feelings like these.
They believe that they are the only ones that feel this way and that everyone is looking at them and judging them on a constant basis.
This is not true, but thinking it is true makes it true for us.
Every day, millions of people don't live their lives to the fullest because they are fearful of how others view them or may judge them.
They shouldn't be concerned because most of the time people are not paying any attention to anyone else besides themselves.
The reality is that most people are so focused on themselves they rarely care about or consider others.
However, in the mind of the person with the social anxiety disorder is the belief that everyone is watching them and even worse - judging them - constantly.
This feeling is something that is deeply disturbing to them and they are not able to be fully functional in social settings.
If someone wants to overcome these feelings of shyness and social anxiety, then I believe they are going to have to make efforts to talk to many different people.
The best way to begin this is to start small at first, then work your way up.
Go to a small cocktail party with a hand full of people.
Engage at least one person in a quick, one-on-one conversation.
Once comfortable there, then work up to a slightly larger group, and talk to at least 3 people.
Then go to a group where you don't know many or anyone.
You may need to repeat each step several times.
You know the expression - do take that one step at a time, and before you know it you will be the person that you have always wanted to be.
Remember if you engage with people, they will engage with you.
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