Social and moral values are instilled in children at a young age, and hence it is essential that you never compromise on teaching them the difference between right and wrong.
But here's the big question, should you ever spank your child? The answer is no, and here's why.
Spanking encourages violence: A child will more often than not mirror what the parents do.
How often do you see him copying the little gestures and words he has picked up from you or your spouse? In a child's eyes, the parents can do no wrong.
Therefore, when you hit him, he will automatically assume that hitting is something very normal.
This will make him violent with his peers, for he will use hitting as a method to get his way whenever he doesn't get what he wants.
By spanking your child, you are teaching him that hitting is the way to handle any conflict or issue.
Spanking affects your child's self-esteem: Even when your child is small enough to not know much, he knows one thing: spanking is punishment for bad children.
A spank immediately makes the child feel guilty and upsets him, for he knows he has done something unspeakably bad.
This is why spanking will make a child feel less confident about himself, and he will feel like he isn't loved or adored.
Spanking in public is a big no, for there is nothing a child can do that is so bad that can't be fixed with words, and that he has to be subjected to humiliation before an audience.
By spanking a child, you can be scarring him for good, making him someone who never steps forward for fear of being wrong.
Spanking undermines your authority: If you spank your child every now and then, you will pretty soon make him indifferent to it.
He will stop respecting or fearing you when he has done something wrong, for he will know he has earned the same old spanking that has now become a part of his routine.
He will stop thinking twice before doing something wrong, because you have taken away the element of fear and he knows exactly what to expect.
You will also fail to get your message across to him, and he will never come to know that you are disappointed in him.
All he will see is anger, and he will have become so accustomed to it that it will not affect him.
There is no lesson that can't be taught to a child without spanking.
Talk to your kid, let him know when he has hurt you or disappointed you.
Use words and tone to get across your message, and he will surely learn his lesson.
But here's the big question, should you ever spank your child? The answer is no, and here's why.
Spanking encourages violence: A child will more often than not mirror what the parents do.
How often do you see him copying the little gestures and words he has picked up from you or your spouse? In a child's eyes, the parents can do no wrong.
Therefore, when you hit him, he will automatically assume that hitting is something very normal.
This will make him violent with his peers, for he will use hitting as a method to get his way whenever he doesn't get what he wants.
By spanking your child, you are teaching him that hitting is the way to handle any conflict or issue.
Spanking affects your child's self-esteem: Even when your child is small enough to not know much, he knows one thing: spanking is punishment for bad children.
A spank immediately makes the child feel guilty and upsets him, for he knows he has done something unspeakably bad.
This is why spanking will make a child feel less confident about himself, and he will feel like he isn't loved or adored.
Spanking in public is a big no, for there is nothing a child can do that is so bad that can't be fixed with words, and that he has to be subjected to humiliation before an audience.
By spanking a child, you can be scarring him for good, making him someone who never steps forward for fear of being wrong.
Spanking undermines your authority: If you spank your child every now and then, you will pretty soon make him indifferent to it.
He will stop respecting or fearing you when he has done something wrong, for he will know he has earned the same old spanking that has now become a part of his routine.
He will stop thinking twice before doing something wrong, because you have taken away the element of fear and he knows exactly what to expect.
You will also fail to get your message across to him, and he will never come to know that you are disappointed in him.
All he will see is anger, and he will have become so accustomed to it that it will not affect him.
There is no lesson that can't be taught to a child without spanking.
Talk to your kid, let him know when he has hurt you or disappointed you.
Use words and tone to get across your message, and he will surely learn his lesson.
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