In this throw away society that we now live, more and more people are seeing divorce as an easy option to sorting out their marital problems. However, what if you are the type of person who believes that marriage is a beautiful thing worth fighting for and the words "for better or for worse" mean just that. If you are in a desperate situation and say "I need help to make my marriage work" then there are certain things that you can put into practise immediately that will help to turn your marriage around
Here are 3 essential tips that you can use to fix your marriage
1) Communication
I know that this is an old clich, but it is absolutely true. For a marriage to work you both have to keep communicating. If the lines of communication are still there between you and your spouse, then you really need to sit your spouse down and ask them to tell you exactly how they are feeling about your relationship. Tell them that you will listen to what they have to say and that you will not interrupt. Take everything onboard that they tell you and then take action on it. When your partner sees that you are taking action to make your marriage work, then it just might get them thinking in a more positive way about your marriage.
2) Rational Thinking
In order to change your marriage situation quickly, you have to change the way that you think. You need to remain calm and think rationally. It is so easy to respond to a situation with emotionality, but how many times in our lives have we said something in the heat of the moment that we regretted later. When you are in this delicate situation, you cannot afford to let this happen. If you feel yourself getting into conflict, then take a deep breath, tell your partner that you are not prepared to deal with this at the moment and that you will need to sort it out in your mind. Tell them that you are not walking away, but you need to think about the problem. Give yourself time (whether that be 5 minutes or 5 hours) to come up with a solution or compromise. When you are ready, sit your partner down and discuss how you are going to resolve the situation. When your partner sees that you are dealing with things in a more calming positive way and realises that you are trying to understand them, then this will again have a positive effect upon them.
3) Do Not Appear Needy
This may seem like an odd thing to say especially when you are trying to make your marriage work, but believe me, if you become clingy and needy towards your partner, it will only succeed in driving them even further away from you! So the best course of action is quite the opposite. If you have a hobby that you have wanted to pursue for ages but haven't had the time, then do it! Taking action on this will have 2 effects! It will give you time away from the situation to think. Also it will make your partner think that you are not as reliant upon them as they thought you were, and they will start to see you in a different light
Using some or all of these tips will indeed start to help to get your relationship back on track. However, this is just the tip of the iceberg. Your marriage crisis wasn't something that happened overnight and it cannot be fully repaired overnight.
Here are 3 essential tips that you can use to fix your marriage
1) Communication
I know that this is an old clich, but it is absolutely true. For a marriage to work you both have to keep communicating. If the lines of communication are still there between you and your spouse, then you really need to sit your spouse down and ask them to tell you exactly how they are feeling about your relationship. Tell them that you will listen to what they have to say and that you will not interrupt. Take everything onboard that they tell you and then take action on it. When your partner sees that you are taking action to make your marriage work, then it just might get them thinking in a more positive way about your marriage.
2) Rational Thinking
In order to change your marriage situation quickly, you have to change the way that you think. You need to remain calm and think rationally. It is so easy to respond to a situation with emotionality, but how many times in our lives have we said something in the heat of the moment that we regretted later. When you are in this delicate situation, you cannot afford to let this happen. If you feel yourself getting into conflict, then take a deep breath, tell your partner that you are not prepared to deal with this at the moment and that you will need to sort it out in your mind. Tell them that you are not walking away, but you need to think about the problem. Give yourself time (whether that be 5 minutes or 5 hours) to come up with a solution or compromise. When you are ready, sit your partner down and discuss how you are going to resolve the situation. When your partner sees that you are dealing with things in a more calming positive way and realises that you are trying to understand them, then this will again have a positive effect upon them.
3) Do Not Appear Needy
This may seem like an odd thing to say especially when you are trying to make your marriage work, but believe me, if you become clingy and needy towards your partner, it will only succeed in driving them even further away from you! So the best course of action is quite the opposite. If you have a hobby that you have wanted to pursue for ages but haven't had the time, then do it! Taking action on this will have 2 effects! It will give you time away from the situation to think. Also it will make your partner think that you are not as reliant upon them as they thought you were, and they will start to see you in a different light
Using some or all of these tips will indeed start to help to get your relationship back on track. However, this is just the tip of the iceberg. Your marriage crisis wasn't something that happened overnight and it cannot be fully repaired overnight.
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