Do you give up too easily? After seeing this squirrel go through this obstacle course, I wonder what drives us humans, especially in relationships (You can find the link at the bottom of this article).
I think that too many of us give up too easily.
Hence the high divorce rate.
OK, maybe I'm oversimplifying things, but that was my immediate thought.
What is your marriage worth to you? Are you as persistent as this squirrel? In the book, The Case for Marriage: Why Married People are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially by Linda J.
Waite and Maggie Gallagher, the authors researched why marriages last.
As they interviewed couples, they discovered that the ones that simply persisted, holding the marriage together despite hardships, disagreements, and unhappiness, were happier when they interviewed those same couples again five years later.
In other words, they were committed to making their marriage work.
These couples didn't go to marriage counseling.
They didn't necessarily do anything different.
They just decided that their marriage was important enough to weather the "worst" parts of "for better or worse.
" They didn't have a back up plan.
They didn't declare they would get a divorce if things didn't work out.
They were simply committed to their marriage.
No, these couples believed they had made a commitment to their marriage and so they kept at it.
Eventually they found that the rough times began to get easier.
They withstood the storm.
Most likely, they were stronger for it.
Sheer stubbornness to keep their marriage together had made a difference! Do you give up too easily or are you like this squirrel? Are you going to give your marriage your all? I hope so.
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