Don't you just hate it when some 22 year old gives advice on how to save a marriage.
You see it online all the time...
when they're just trying to sell you something...
anything.
They're probably not even married, let alone having no experience.
They don't even post their picture for fear of being discovered.
Really...
give me a break! I have been married twice, and had three long term relationships out of which came 4 children.
How's that for experience? Now it's my opinion...
and always has been...
that people just don't fall out of love.
They just get sidetracked as the relationship matures.
They forget what brought them together in the first place.
First there was the physical attraction.
Then discovered they had a lot in common and started working towards the same dreams and goals.
But life has a tendency to let you down.
And as we move along...
we discover different interests and all of a sudden we're no longer on the same path.
The rest follows.
In a nutshell...
that's how a marriage breaks down.
If you want to save your marriage...
begin by traveling back in time.
Back to the days when you first met.
Re-discover your love for each other.
You'll be surprised to find out how much you still love each other.
Forget work, finances, etc.
, which has come to preoccupy your life.
It isn't worth it...
trust me.
If you're confused about how to go about saving your marriage, here are five effective ways of saving a marriage.
Of course, this is not a one-time thing...
you need to keep it up because not doing so is what got you there in the first place.
So if your marriage is headed for really stormy weather...
and it's tearing you apart...
ask yourself this.
Do conversations with your partner go around in circles? If you answered yes, then chances are your marriage is in trouble.
Many marriages today are experiencing severe strain but this does not mean that the only solution is to eventually put an end to it by resorting to divorce.
There are still lots of ways by which a marriage can be saved.
And here are five effective ways to save a marriage.
The first is communication.
Most couples breakup without acknowledging the real reason why they no longer get along.
It is imperative that couples should communicate in order to know the root of the conflict.
Saving a marriage by opening up about problems and conflicts will give you a clear picture of what is going on, why it's happening, and eventually, you will both know what has to be done in order to surpass this period.
The second, is being rational, reasonable, and calm.
Usually when couples are faced with conflicts, mixed emotions fly around that lead to heated arguments and even to physical violence.
Acting irrationally and doing things that will only worsen the situation should be avoided by being calm, reasonable, and open at all times.
You should always stay calm and you should know when to keep quiet and when is the right time to talk.
Remember that an angry person sometimes speak without sense, so wait until that heavy emotion subsides before you take your turn in speaking.
This will not only alleviate the problem, but will be very effective in saving a marriage.
Give yourselves some space Saving a marriage by taking some time apart is often a good idea if things are really getting out of hand.
This is a difficult thing to do, but can sure bring a positive result instead of arguing about the same things over and over when you are together.
This way, you and your partner will have some time to think about things and to realize what are the mistakes that you both do.
After some time, you will begin missing each other and eventually, could work things out when you get back together.
Take things slowly.
Never rush back into things which can again trigger for another rocky period in your relationship.
When trying to save marriage, be sure to take things slowly and have a serious conversation about what really happened and what you can both do to prevent the same conflict from happening again in the future.
Or if in a case, the same thing happened, you should know how to handle it differently and in a way that it won't put your marriage at stake.
There is no need to rush things since everyday is a new and exciting day for your relationship.
Be nice to each other.
Although the honeymoon stage is over, getting back together after a rocky period will sure need some spicing up.
Saving a marriage by saying sweet and nice words will sure mean some thing to your partner.
Compliment your spouse often.
Don't say it if you don't mean it, but there is always something positive you can say.
Whether, "I appreciate you working hard every day for us," or "That dinner was fantastic," or "That outfit makes you look really hot," whatever sweet and nice words you say as long as you're sincere and you keep them coming, will mean something and will be a nice way of saving your marriage.
As a man, the gesture I appreciated most out of my wife is when out of nowhere she would come and hug me from the back.
I knew that when she did this...
I was appreciated...
I didn't need words.
And so it goes with my children too.
Saving a marriage may be a hard thing to do for some couples, but it's the little things that count, and if you and your partner are really determined to stay together, these ways will be effective.
Just remember that to save a marriage requires effort, cooperation, understanding, and patience from each of you.
And that all marriages are not perfect, you are just one of the many who are also finding ways to save their marriage.
You see it online all the time...
when they're just trying to sell you something...
anything.
They're probably not even married, let alone having no experience.
They don't even post their picture for fear of being discovered.
Really...
give me a break! I have been married twice, and had three long term relationships out of which came 4 children.
How's that for experience? Now it's my opinion...
and always has been...
that people just don't fall out of love.
They just get sidetracked as the relationship matures.
They forget what brought them together in the first place.
First there was the physical attraction.
Then discovered they had a lot in common and started working towards the same dreams and goals.
But life has a tendency to let you down.
And as we move along...
we discover different interests and all of a sudden we're no longer on the same path.
The rest follows.
In a nutshell...
that's how a marriage breaks down.
If you want to save your marriage...
begin by traveling back in time.
Back to the days when you first met.
Re-discover your love for each other.
You'll be surprised to find out how much you still love each other.
Forget work, finances, etc.
, which has come to preoccupy your life.
It isn't worth it...
trust me.
If you're confused about how to go about saving your marriage, here are five effective ways of saving a marriage.
Of course, this is not a one-time thing...
you need to keep it up because not doing so is what got you there in the first place.
So if your marriage is headed for really stormy weather...
and it's tearing you apart...
ask yourself this.
Do conversations with your partner go around in circles? If you answered yes, then chances are your marriage is in trouble.
Many marriages today are experiencing severe strain but this does not mean that the only solution is to eventually put an end to it by resorting to divorce.
There are still lots of ways by which a marriage can be saved.
And here are five effective ways to save a marriage.
The first is communication.
Most couples breakup without acknowledging the real reason why they no longer get along.
It is imperative that couples should communicate in order to know the root of the conflict.
Saving a marriage by opening up about problems and conflicts will give you a clear picture of what is going on, why it's happening, and eventually, you will both know what has to be done in order to surpass this period.
The second, is being rational, reasonable, and calm.
Usually when couples are faced with conflicts, mixed emotions fly around that lead to heated arguments and even to physical violence.
Acting irrationally and doing things that will only worsen the situation should be avoided by being calm, reasonable, and open at all times.
You should always stay calm and you should know when to keep quiet and when is the right time to talk.
Remember that an angry person sometimes speak without sense, so wait until that heavy emotion subsides before you take your turn in speaking.
This will not only alleviate the problem, but will be very effective in saving a marriage.
Give yourselves some space Saving a marriage by taking some time apart is often a good idea if things are really getting out of hand.
This is a difficult thing to do, but can sure bring a positive result instead of arguing about the same things over and over when you are together.
This way, you and your partner will have some time to think about things and to realize what are the mistakes that you both do.
After some time, you will begin missing each other and eventually, could work things out when you get back together.
Take things slowly.
Never rush back into things which can again trigger for another rocky period in your relationship.
When trying to save marriage, be sure to take things slowly and have a serious conversation about what really happened and what you can both do to prevent the same conflict from happening again in the future.
Or if in a case, the same thing happened, you should know how to handle it differently and in a way that it won't put your marriage at stake.
There is no need to rush things since everyday is a new and exciting day for your relationship.
Be nice to each other.
Although the honeymoon stage is over, getting back together after a rocky period will sure need some spicing up.
Saving a marriage by saying sweet and nice words will sure mean some thing to your partner.
Compliment your spouse often.
Don't say it if you don't mean it, but there is always something positive you can say.
Whether, "I appreciate you working hard every day for us," or "That dinner was fantastic," or "That outfit makes you look really hot," whatever sweet and nice words you say as long as you're sincere and you keep them coming, will mean something and will be a nice way of saving your marriage.
As a man, the gesture I appreciated most out of my wife is when out of nowhere she would come and hug me from the back.
I knew that when she did this...
I was appreciated...
I didn't need words.
And so it goes with my children too.
Saving a marriage may be a hard thing to do for some couples, but it's the little things that count, and if you and your partner are really determined to stay together, these ways will be effective.
Just remember that to save a marriage requires effort, cooperation, understanding, and patience from each of you.
And that all marriages are not perfect, you are just one of the many who are also finding ways to save their marriage.
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