The Good, The Bad and the Ugly
Denise Barry, 2013
Have you ever felt really good about yourselfyoure just kind of coasting along in your own happiness, then WHAM!
Someone comes along and reminds you that youre not perfect?
They make a comment that contradicts how you feel about yourself and then you start second guessing who you are all over the place.
Is it true? Should I be nicer or more attractive or smarter, etc?If he/she doesnt like this about me, then I shouldnt like this about me. If he/she doesnt like me then I shouldnt like me. I dont like me. I wish I were different.
Allow me to reveal some synonyms of the word perfect: faultless, beyond compare, defectless, pure, supreme, boring.
Yes, boring! And exhausting!
How much work must it take to be perfect? And if you ever got there, how hard would it be to maintain?
I dont know about you, but I dont want to feel like I have to work that hard for something so fragile and fleeting. All it would take is one tiny, inexact move and perfect would spiral wildly out of its pristine state of being.
Into what? Well, we like to call that state imperfect, dont we?
Let me expose what the word imperfect is synonymous with; broken, damaged, defective, deficient, flawed, garbage, incomplete, junk, limited.
Really?!
Does this make anyone else as angry as it does me?
I am not perfect but I am certainly not damaged. I am not pristine but in no way am I defective. I am not pure but I refuse to think for a second that I am garbage or junk.
Who comes up with this stuff anyway?
The thing is, words cant possibly describe who we are. When we use words to describe who we are, we are limiting ourselves (or allowing others to limit us).
We are perfect and we are not so perfect. And we are everything in between.
But the truth is, we really just feel. We experience feelings of generosity sometimes. We experience feelings of overwhelm sometimes. Also happiness, sadness, compassion, anger, etc.
Feelings are much more complex than mere words. But even they dont define who we are, but the states of Being we are in at any given moment.
We can BE happiness. We can BE annoying. We can BE fear. We can BE love.
Since our states of being change from one moment to the next, we are not our feelings either.
What we are is not a word or a feeling.
What are we then?
I dont really know. But we are Be-ing.
We are Beings.
Allow me to introduce you to some synonyms for what a Being is: presence, essential nature, entity, essence, self, soul, spirit, substance
Being is defined as the fact of existing. We exist.
I cant find any limitations there, can you?
Lets not define ourselves, or let anyone else define us either.
But if we have to, then perfect is a pretty good definition, as long as we understand that perfect means we are made as a whole entity.
We are everything and all of it. We are the good, the bad and the ugly.and its all as it should be.
Denise Barry, 2013
Have you ever felt really good about yourselfyoure just kind of coasting along in your own happiness, then WHAM!
Someone comes along and reminds you that youre not perfect?
They make a comment that contradicts how you feel about yourself and then you start second guessing who you are all over the place.
Is it true? Should I be nicer or more attractive or smarter, etc?If he/she doesnt like this about me, then I shouldnt like this about me. If he/she doesnt like me then I shouldnt like me. I dont like me. I wish I were different.
Allow me to reveal some synonyms of the word perfect: faultless, beyond compare, defectless, pure, supreme, boring.
Yes, boring! And exhausting!
How much work must it take to be perfect? And if you ever got there, how hard would it be to maintain?
I dont know about you, but I dont want to feel like I have to work that hard for something so fragile and fleeting. All it would take is one tiny, inexact move and perfect would spiral wildly out of its pristine state of being.
Into what? Well, we like to call that state imperfect, dont we?
Let me expose what the word imperfect is synonymous with; broken, damaged, defective, deficient, flawed, garbage, incomplete, junk, limited.
Really?!
Does this make anyone else as angry as it does me?
I am not perfect but I am certainly not damaged. I am not pristine but in no way am I defective. I am not pure but I refuse to think for a second that I am garbage or junk.
Who comes up with this stuff anyway?
The thing is, words cant possibly describe who we are. When we use words to describe who we are, we are limiting ourselves (or allowing others to limit us).
We are perfect and we are not so perfect. And we are everything in between.
But the truth is, we really just feel. We experience feelings of generosity sometimes. We experience feelings of overwhelm sometimes. Also happiness, sadness, compassion, anger, etc.
Feelings are much more complex than mere words. But even they dont define who we are, but the states of Being we are in at any given moment.
We can BE happiness. We can BE annoying. We can BE fear. We can BE love.
Since our states of being change from one moment to the next, we are not our feelings either.
What we are is not a word or a feeling.
What are we then?
I dont really know. But we are Be-ing.
We are Beings.
Allow me to introduce you to some synonyms for what a Being is: presence, essential nature, entity, essence, self, soul, spirit, substance
Being is defined as the fact of existing. We exist.
I cant find any limitations there, can you?
Lets not define ourselves, or let anyone else define us either.
But if we have to, then perfect is a pretty good definition, as long as we understand that perfect means we are made as a whole entity.
We are everything and all of it. We are the good, the bad and the ugly.and its all as it should be.
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