Many of us have an unwavering stubbornness about ourselves.
So much so that we never want to ask anybody for anything, let alone ask for help.
Although this isn't necessarily a bad thing, your relentless resolve to solve your own problems and the pride of knowing that you did it by yourself, when it comes to saving your marriage though this line of thinking can often be a recipe for disaster.
Just because you want to solve your marriage problems by yourself, doesn't necessarily mean you should.
So, how do you know when you need help? There are several things to think about when you finally find yourself at the point of needing real help to save your marriage.
Some of these things will help determine the kind of help that will best suit your needs.
For instance, have the lines of communication between you and your spouse pretty much reached a stand still? Have you and your spouse become disgusted with each other from the ongoing battles and no holds bard confrontations between the both of you that escalate out of control at every turn? If so, then sometimes having a "middle man" or "mediator" between the both of you may do some wonders.
Counseling is usually the most common option that comes up when 2 spouses who want to work on their marriage, but cant' seem to communicate to each other their needs and wants without it turning into a battle or an all out insult fest.
Having somebody in between you that can help you better communicate those needs can help the both of you understand more clearly what the other one needs out of the marriage or what is lacking.
But, what if your spouse won't go to counseling? What kind of help can you get if that is the case or you believe that counseling would be to much of a financial burden that the both of you can't really take on right now? Sometimes the financial burden or the unwillingness of one spouse to go to counseling can derail your plans of getting the help you need, mainly by assuming that it's your only option.
But it's not.
There are many other ways to get the help you need, usually in the form of a self-help guide or marriage saving plan that's designed by an expert whose taken their marriage saving best practices and put it on paper so to speak.
If counseling seems out of the question, then this may be the help that will work best for you.
Either way, if you're having problems in your marriage and every effort to fix things so far has either back fired or just isn't working at all, then getting help now is extremely important.
The more you drag things out and the longer you go on not being honest with yourself about needing real help, the more you are at risk of doing further damage to your marriage, without even knowing it.
So much so that we never want to ask anybody for anything, let alone ask for help.
Although this isn't necessarily a bad thing, your relentless resolve to solve your own problems and the pride of knowing that you did it by yourself, when it comes to saving your marriage though this line of thinking can often be a recipe for disaster.
Just because you want to solve your marriage problems by yourself, doesn't necessarily mean you should.
So, how do you know when you need help? There are several things to think about when you finally find yourself at the point of needing real help to save your marriage.
Some of these things will help determine the kind of help that will best suit your needs.
For instance, have the lines of communication between you and your spouse pretty much reached a stand still? Have you and your spouse become disgusted with each other from the ongoing battles and no holds bard confrontations between the both of you that escalate out of control at every turn? If so, then sometimes having a "middle man" or "mediator" between the both of you may do some wonders.
Counseling is usually the most common option that comes up when 2 spouses who want to work on their marriage, but cant' seem to communicate to each other their needs and wants without it turning into a battle or an all out insult fest.
Having somebody in between you that can help you better communicate those needs can help the both of you understand more clearly what the other one needs out of the marriage or what is lacking.
But, what if your spouse won't go to counseling? What kind of help can you get if that is the case or you believe that counseling would be to much of a financial burden that the both of you can't really take on right now? Sometimes the financial burden or the unwillingness of one spouse to go to counseling can derail your plans of getting the help you need, mainly by assuming that it's your only option.
But it's not.
There are many other ways to get the help you need, usually in the form of a self-help guide or marriage saving plan that's designed by an expert whose taken their marriage saving best practices and put it on paper so to speak.
If counseling seems out of the question, then this may be the help that will work best for you.
Either way, if you're having problems in your marriage and every effort to fix things so far has either back fired or just isn't working at all, then getting help now is extremely important.
The more you drag things out and the longer you go on not being honest with yourself about needing real help, the more you are at risk of doing further damage to your marriage, without even knowing it.
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