There are many mistakes that you can make while trying to save your marriage that don't quite make any sense at the time or bring upon the opposite reaction of what you would normally expect.
This happens more than you would think, and often times it begins to make the marriage look less and less attractive than the idea of leaving.
Hopefully this article will shed some light on some of those things and help you make the idea of staying in the marriage more attractive.
One of the first things that happens when you face a situation as troubling as the idea of losing your marriage is that your emotional compass so to speak begins to go on the fritz.
For the most part, you're not exactly in control anymore.
The idea of losing your marriage and all that comes with it has taken over the drivers seat of emotions that you might otherwise hold back or keep under control under normal circumstances.
The wall, the lock and key or the governor has pretty much left the building.
What this can lead to, is a series of behaviors, that seem practical at the time but only make things worse.
It may seem as if it's the best thing to do or the only thing to do, and in your head it makes perfect sense.
But, 9 times out of 10, you're actually making things worse.
And, 9 times out of 10 the culprit behind these behaviors is your emotions.
If you had more time to think things through a little more clearly, you might have seen why this type of behavior is actually pushing your spouse further away.
Types of behavior that begin to diminish the attractiveness of the relationship come almost second nature to what you would assume to be a natural reaction.
Things like crying and pleading with your spouse to stay in your marriage, if they give you just one more chance to make things right.
Dragging around the house and hoping that expressing signs of depression will make your spouse reconsider.
Threatening or using family, friends or even children as pawns against your spouse.
Bothering them at work or confronting personal issues in front of other people, lashing out or turning every meaningless conversation into something about the marriage.
As far as actually making the marriage more attractive, a good rule of thumb is to almost do the opposite of everything that was just listed.
Although this may go against everything you think right now to be the right thing to do, you have to make this as pleasant as possible.
You undoubtedly have many complaints or issues you would like to bring up or bring to light, but right now your main goal if your spouse is stubbornly convinced to leave, is to make staying in the marriage more attractive by avoiding behaviors that will push them away.
It's also worth noting, that although this articles intent is to make you aware of such things, you should do more reading and research into more about what kinds of things will push your spouse away further and how to avoid them.
At the same time, reading more about what types of behaviors, actions and speaking will serve to make staying in the marriage more attractive so that you can better cater your interactions with your spouse at this time to best serve you in your efforts to save the marriage.
You can keep reading to find out more about this.
This happens more than you would think, and often times it begins to make the marriage look less and less attractive than the idea of leaving.
Hopefully this article will shed some light on some of those things and help you make the idea of staying in the marriage more attractive.
One of the first things that happens when you face a situation as troubling as the idea of losing your marriage is that your emotional compass so to speak begins to go on the fritz.
For the most part, you're not exactly in control anymore.
The idea of losing your marriage and all that comes with it has taken over the drivers seat of emotions that you might otherwise hold back or keep under control under normal circumstances.
The wall, the lock and key or the governor has pretty much left the building.
What this can lead to, is a series of behaviors, that seem practical at the time but only make things worse.
It may seem as if it's the best thing to do or the only thing to do, and in your head it makes perfect sense.
But, 9 times out of 10, you're actually making things worse.
And, 9 times out of 10 the culprit behind these behaviors is your emotions.
If you had more time to think things through a little more clearly, you might have seen why this type of behavior is actually pushing your spouse further away.
Types of behavior that begin to diminish the attractiveness of the relationship come almost second nature to what you would assume to be a natural reaction.
Things like crying and pleading with your spouse to stay in your marriage, if they give you just one more chance to make things right.
Dragging around the house and hoping that expressing signs of depression will make your spouse reconsider.
Threatening or using family, friends or even children as pawns against your spouse.
Bothering them at work or confronting personal issues in front of other people, lashing out or turning every meaningless conversation into something about the marriage.
As far as actually making the marriage more attractive, a good rule of thumb is to almost do the opposite of everything that was just listed.
Although this may go against everything you think right now to be the right thing to do, you have to make this as pleasant as possible.
You undoubtedly have many complaints or issues you would like to bring up or bring to light, but right now your main goal if your spouse is stubbornly convinced to leave, is to make staying in the marriage more attractive by avoiding behaviors that will push them away.
It's also worth noting, that although this articles intent is to make you aware of such things, you should do more reading and research into more about what kinds of things will push your spouse away further and how to avoid them.
At the same time, reading more about what types of behaviors, actions and speaking will serve to make staying in the marriage more attractive so that you can better cater your interactions with your spouse at this time to best serve you in your efforts to save the marriage.
You can keep reading to find out more about this.
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