Just because you realize that a woman you have been dating is probably not the woman you are going to want to spend the rest of your life with - it does not mean that you don't still enjoy the sex with her. So, that may make you wonder about the idea of becoming friends with benefits with your ex girlfriend. You may have broken up, but you know that on your end, you would still love to be able to get her into bed from time to time. It sounds like the perfect fantasy to you, but does that mean that you should make an attempt to make it your reality?
The idea of being able to have a "friend with benefits," a woman you can have a sexual relationship with and not have to be her boyfriend and do all of the other relationship kinds of things that you normally would have to do is very appealing to most guys. It's kind of like getting your cake and eating it too. You get all of what you want and none of what you don't want. However, as good of an idea as it might sound in your fantasy world, it does not always work out like that in actual practice.
Most women honestly can't do a "friends with benefits" style relationship even if they want to. They are going to eventually get emotionally attached to you and they are going to want more than just a sexual relationship. Not only that, but trying to get your ex girlfriend to be the one that you have this kind of a relationship with can be a lot harder, just because of the fact that you have a history with her and she knows you and how you are.
That does not mean that it is impossible to have a casual sexual relationship with your ex girlfriend, it just means that it usually does not work out the way that you might imagine it in your mind. Plus, it can be a lot more complicated on your end as well. Even though the stereotype is that men can do casual sexual relationships without growing attached and women cannot, that is not always true. Sometimes it is the other way around and the guy is the one that grows attached and wants to have a deeper relationship and the woman does not.
Chances are, if you have been thinking about your ex girlfriend a lot, then your feelings DO run deeper than just wanting to sleep with her. And if that is the case, then there is a good chance that you are going to eventually want more than just a casual fling every now and again with her. And if she does not want the same or she ends the flings because she finds someone else that she wants to be with, then you are going to end up getting hurt by that.
Would I recommend that a guy try to become friends with benefits with his ex girlfriend?
In some cases, yes and in some cases - no. If you are the kind of guy that normally becomes attached to the woman you are intimate with, it may not be a good idea. And if you think that she is going to grow attached to you and you are not going to want anything deeper than a fling here and there, then it is probably not a good idea. On the other hand, if you BOTH can handle the situation, then why not?
The idea of being able to have a "friend with benefits," a woman you can have a sexual relationship with and not have to be her boyfriend and do all of the other relationship kinds of things that you normally would have to do is very appealing to most guys. It's kind of like getting your cake and eating it too. You get all of what you want and none of what you don't want. However, as good of an idea as it might sound in your fantasy world, it does not always work out like that in actual practice.
Most women honestly can't do a "friends with benefits" style relationship even if they want to. They are going to eventually get emotionally attached to you and they are going to want more than just a sexual relationship. Not only that, but trying to get your ex girlfriend to be the one that you have this kind of a relationship with can be a lot harder, just because of the fact that you have a history with her and she knows you and how you are.
That does not mean that it is impossible to have a casual sexual relationship with your ex girlfriend, it just means that it usually does not work out the way that you might imagine it in your mind. Plus, it can be a lot more complicated on your end as well. Even though the stereotype is that men can do casual sexual relationships without growing attached and women cannot, that is not always true. Sometimes it is the other way around and the guy is the one that grows attached and wants to have a deeper relationship and the woman does not.
Chances are, if you have been thinking about your ex girlfriend a lot, then your feelings DO run deeper than just wanting to sleep with her. And if that is the case, then there is a good chance that you are going to eventually want more than just a casual fling every now and again with her. And if she does not want the same or she ends the flings because she finds someone else that she wants to be with, then you are going to end up getting hurt by that.
Would I recommend that a guy try to become friends with benefits with his ex girlfriend?
In some cases, yes and in some cases - no. If you are the kind of guy that normally becomes attached to the woman you are intimate with, it may not be a good idea. And if you think that she is going to grow attached to you and you are not going to want anything deeper than a fling here and there, then it is probably not a good idea. On the other hand, if you BOTH can handle the situation, then why not?
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