Do you want to know how to value your spouse? This may seem like a strange question to some of you.
Others of you realize that valuing your spouse makes him or her feel very special.
Wife, Do you want to know how to get your husband to love you more? This may sound a little selfish as a motivation for valuing your spouse.
Husband, do you want to know to get your wife to love you more? Again this may seem like a selfish motivation for you.
Actually, this action has a dual purpose.
You will get benefit yourself by valuing your spouse, but you also really do value your spouse.
You just want to know better ways to show that value.
I know how you feel.
I have been through the stages of marriage that go far beyond the honeymoon stage.
After a while, the pressures of life and demands on time can cause you to fall into a rut.
My wife and I discovered the value of learning about good marriages.
We heard about a secret that many successful marriages have.
What is that secret? Here it is: Marriages that are strong have partners who value each other and show that they value each other.
How can you show that value? Here are three secrets for showing that value: 1.
Remember the Good Times If you want to know how to value your spouse, one of the best things you can do is to remember the good times.
There are times in any marriage when one or more of the partners will not be at their best.
Sometimes this "down time" that is not usually characteristic of your mate may last for days or weeks.
When this happens, you may be tempted to focus on the negative.
Remember your good times.
Remember the good points of your spouse.
Remember what drew you to him or her in the first place.
Realize that many of those things are still present.
You are just focusing on other things.
Remembering the good will help your attitude, and then that will also give you something to verbalize.
Verbalizing the good points is one way to show value to your mate.
2.
Admire Your Spouse in public Admiring your spouse in public is a great way to show value.
Dear wife, if you want to get your husband to love you more, admire him in public.
(Husband, this will help your wife too.
) Studies have shown that one of a husband's greatest needs is to be admired and respected by his wife.
3.
Listen to Your Spouse Really listening to your mate shows that you value his or her opinion.
When a wife listens to her husband, she shows that she respects his opinion.
Hey, husband, if you want to get your wife to love you more, listen to her.
Develop your conversational skills.
Learn to understand how she communicates.
Learn how to "go the distance" in a conversation.
Don't be preoccupied with forming a solution unless she has indicated that is what she needs.
Husband, we have said that listening is a great way to get your wife to love you more.
We actually saw three secrets for showing value to your spouse: Remembering the good times, admiring your spouse in public, and listening to your spouse.
When you carry out these ideas, you will see great benefits.
A side benefit for you as a wife is that you will get your husband to love you more.
The husband will also realize a similar benefit from his wife.
Your attitude will improve, and both of you will feel special.
You will be drawn to each other.
Warning: Ignoring these three secrets will cause you miss out on some of the greatest things you can do to improve your marriage.
Make a great marriage better.
Restore a faltering marriage.
Learn all you can about how to value your spouse, and you will be on your way to a better or restored marriage.