How to Handle it When Your Teen Hates You

1). Breathe. Take a few minutes to be by yourself in another room, particularly when you and your teen have an argument. Try to remember what you were like at that age, and remember that she can only think about what she wants right now, not what's good for her in the long run. Taking a few minutes to calm yourself down before dealing with her can help prevent you from blowing up and doing or saying something you'll regret later.
2). Ignore his outbursts when possible. Engaging in an argument will only encourage him to continue acting out in a disrespectful manner. When he yells that he hates you, ignore him as best you can. Arguing will put you in his comfort zone and give him ammunition to use your heated words against you later. Calmly state and restate your position, then walk away if he continues to try to bait you into an argument.
3). Cry or scream into a pillow if you need to, once you're by yourself. Getting it out can help relieve some of the pent-up feelings you have, whether you're sad, frustrated or having any other unpleasant feeling regarding your teen hating you.
4). Talk to a trusted friend, another parent, your spouse, your pastor, your mom or a counselor. Talking through your feelings can help you realize that your teen is not thinking rationally and help you avoid blaming yourself for her misplaced feelings. Chances are good that your teen's misbehavior has little or nothing to do with your parenting skills, but has more to do with something within herself.
5). Assert yourself as the parent, no matter what he tries to do. Be firm in your decisions including the rules and consequences for breaking them. If you have to take his allowance, the car keys, his cell phone, computer, phone and going out privileges, then take them. You are only required to provide safe shelter and food for him. Being firm and tough is hard, especially when he's being hateful, though it will help you to stand your ground so you can go to bed each night knowing that you are doing the best you can to protect your teen from himself.