Every night in your house the battle scene repeats itself; you tell your child to do their homework, because you know how important it is for them to be successful in school.
They refuse.
You really understand them, (you also didn't like to do it when you were young) but you can't give in because now, with life's experience behind you, you understand its importance.
How can you end this daily (or near daily battle?) In this article I hope to show you ..
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ways to end this battle (or at least minimize it) once and for all.
The first thing that you have to understand is: deep down inside of your child mind they also realize the importance of doing their homework and succeeding in school.
They also want to finish it and then do what they want to do.
Theirproblem is, however, that at the moment that they have to do their homework tens of different things blind them of the benefits that they will receive by finishing their homework.
Your job, then, is to simply show some visible benefits that they will receive by doing their work and they will then do it without any arm twisting.
Here are few ways to make it "their worthwhile" to do their homework.
1.
Make a list of incentives TOGETHER.
No matter how much you like your job and no matter how much you believe your company helps the worldthe main motivator for you to go to work is the pay check you receive at the end of the week.
Your child might be the same way.
Therefore, independent of any home work assignment, make a list WITH THEM of things that they want; small and big.
On a night when you smell trouble offer an "incentive" from the list.
Don't wait for the trouble to begin, (then it looks like a bribe) but rather make the offer before there is trouble.
2.
Make a list of privileges and activities that he really likes.
The converse of the first tip is to to observe which privileges and activities your children love.
Jot them down.
If you see that he is being very lax in his homework, tell him firmly and clearly, "If you don't do such and such I'll have to {shut off your cell phone account, not allow you to go to the football game over the weekend, etc.
} Be firm but fair.
Make sure the punishment fits the crime; not to lenient and not too severe.
3.
Another powerful strategy is to show who will suffer by what they do (or don't do).
For instance, if they have little brothers or sisters whom you know they feel responsible for them, then by pointing out that their doing homework will have a strong positive impact on their younger sibling might give them the motivation to do their homework.
You know the importance of doing good in school and your children also know its importance.
Use the three tips above to help them have short term benefits so that they will be able to reap the long term ones.
They refuse.
You really understand them, (you also didn't like to do it when you were young) but you can't give in because now, with life's experience behind you, you understand its importance.
How can you end this daily (or near daily battle?) In this article I hope to show you ..
..
ways to end this battle (or at least minimize it) once and for all.
The first thing that you have to understand is: deep down inside of your child mind they also realize the importance of doing their homework and succeeding in school.
They also want to finish it and then do what they want to do.
Theirproblem is, however, that at the moment that they have to do their homework tens of different things blind them of the benefits that they will receive by finishing their homework.
Your job, then, is to simply show some visible benefits that they will receive by doing their work and they will then do it without any arm twisting.
Here are few ways to make it "their worthwhile" to do their homework.
1.
Make a list of incentives TOGETHER.
No matter how much you like your job and no matter how much you believe your company helps the worldthe main motivator for you to go to work is the pay check you receive at the end of the week.
Your child might be the same way.
Therefore, independent of any home work assignment, make a list WITH THEM of things that they want; small and big.
On a night when you smell trouble offer an "incentive" from the list.
Don't wait for the trouble to begin, (then it looks like a bribe) but rather make the offer before there is trouble.
2.
Make a list of privileges and activities that he really likes.
The converse of the first tip is to to observe which privileges and activities your children love.
Jot them down.
If you see that he is being very lax in his homework, tell him firmly and clearly, "If you don't do such and such I'll have to {shut off your cell phone account, not allow you to go to the football game over the weekend, etc.
} Be firm but fair.
Make sure the punishment fits the crime; not to lenient and not too severe.
3.
Another powerful strategy is to show who will suffer by what they do (or don't do).
For instance, if they have little brothers or sisters whom you know they feel responsible for them, then by pointing out that their doing homework will have a strong positive impact on their younger sibling might give them the motivation to do their homework.
You know the importance of doing good in school and your children also know its importance.
Use the three tips above to help them have short term benefits so that they will be able to reap the long term ones.
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