"My wife doesn't love me anymore and I don't know what to do!" It's sad, isn't it? When a marriage starts to unravel it can feel as though the situation is out of control. One partner will often start pulling away while the other is holding on for dear life. Being a man in this position is hard. Sensing that your wife has fallen out of love with you and hearing her tell you that she's just not happy anymore is definitely life changing. Although it may feel as though your only option in this situation is to let her go and file for divorce, don't. Your marriage isn't over yet and if you have enough determination and insight, you can actually change the entire future for you and your spouse. You love your wife so don't let her slip away. Learn what you can do to make her fall back in love with you and recommit herself to your relationship.
When you first come to the realization that your wife doesn't love you anymore you may be tempted to point the finger of blame at her. It's easy to do that when you still feel very much in love with her. However, a marriage is clearly a balanced partnership and if that balance tips, it can change everything. If your wife has come to feel neglected or ignored by you, that will impact her feelings. She'll start to feel an emotional distance there and eventually will believe that she's fallen out of love. It's very easy to confuse that feeling with boredom or not being fulfilled.
That's why you need to start treating your wife in the way she needs to be treated. Even if the connection between you two is strained now, put all the effort you can into making her feel loved and adored. Treat her the way you did when you two first dated and married. Tell her you love her more and bring her flowers. This may seem trite in the face of what your marriage is going through, but it's often the smallest gestures that will make the biggest difference.
Encourage your wife to talk to you more about what she's feeling. Many marriages suffer from a significant lack of communication because the couple just drifts apart. If you two aren't talking about what you're feeling you can't rebuild your lost bond. Set an example by sharing what you feel with her. Lay your heart out for her to see and explain in detail exactly how much you need and want her as your wife. Every woman wants to hear this from her husband and it can help open the floodgates and make her want to pour her heart out to you as well.
When you first come to the realization that your wife doesn't love you anymore you may be tempted to point the finger of blame at her. It's easy to do that when you still feel very much in love with her. However, a marriage is clearly a balanced partnership and if that balance tips, it can change everything. If your wife has come to feel neglected or ignored by you, that will impact her feelings. She'll start to feel an emotional distance there and eventually will believe that she's fallen out of love. It's very easy to confuse that feeling with boredom or not being fulfilled.
That's why you need to start treating your wife in the way she needs to be treated. Even if the connection between you two is strained now, put all the effort you can into making her feel loved and adored. Treat her the way you did when you two first dated and married. Tell her you love her more and bring her flowers. This may seem trite in the face of what your marriage is going through, but it's often the smallest gestures that will make the biggest difference.
Encourage your wife to talk to you more about what she's feeling. Many marriages suffer from a significant lack of communication because the couple just drifts apart. If you two aren't talking about what you're feeling you can't rebuild your lost bond. Set an example by sharing what you feel with her. Lay your heart out for her to see and explain in detail exactly how much you need and want her as your wife. Every woman wants to hear this from her husband and it can help open the floodgates and make her want to pour her heart out to you as well.
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