There are a number of marriage problems that occur when you marry someone and find out that they're not really who you thought they were when you weren't married to them.
Usually, people go through different stages in the dating process.
When you first meet someone, you hide your bad side and keep all the skeletons in your closet.
As you get to know them and get deeper and deeper into a relationship with them, you learn more.
Some people aren't completely honest until after they're married, which can cause problems.
Here are the 3 most common problems caused by not acting yourself in a marriage.
1.
Distrust You may try to justify to yourself that you weren't lying to your man but if you find that he generally trusts you less when he sees how you truly are in the relationship, you know that you actually were lying to him the whole time by not telling him the entire truth.
It can be little things like mild obsessive compulsive tendencies that irk him, or it could be a past stage of depression that you had.
Even if you try to tell him that you were trying to protect him, he would appreciate it if he knew everything about you.
2.
Dashed Upon The Rocks Early This is another issue that makes marriage a trial more than a something that should be enjoyed.
If you act yourself after your marriage and your man finds that he has to live with this "real you", your marriage is going to hit the rocks early, making divorce a real possibility.
As frightening as it is, this is a good incentive to really be as honest as you can with your man and to let him know how you truly are.
If he respects you and loves you, he won't react too badly to it.
3.
Divorce Ultimately, this is what it all leads to if you aren't yourself when you marry your man.
The woman that he weds at the altar has to be the same woman that he's going to live with for the rest of his life.
The same goes for him as well.
Wouldn't you feel lied to if you found out that your man used to be a drug addict? You would prefer to find out about this early just so anything that happens down the track doesn't come as so much of a shock to you.
These marriage problems can be avoided if you think ahead and are mature enough to realize that honesty is always the best policy.
Even if you are to lose what you have, it would be best if you lost it with integrity instead of having it taken away from you by signing divorce papers.
Usually, people go through different stages in the dating process.
When you first meet someone, you hide your bad side and keep all the skeletons in your closet.
As you get to know them and get deeper and deeper into a relationship with them, you learn more.
Some people aren't completely honest until after they're married, which can cause problems.
Here are the 3 most common problems caused by not acting yourself in a marriage.
1.
Distrust You may try to justify to yourself that you weren't lying to your man but if you find that he generally trusts you less when he sees how you truly are in the relationship, you know that you actually were lying to him the whole time by not telling him the entire truth.
It can be little things like mild obsessive compulsive tendencies that irk him, or it could be a past stage of depression that you had.
Even if you try to tell him that you were trying to protect him, he would appreciate it if he knew everything about you.
2.
Dashed Upon The Rocks Early This is another issue that makes marriage a trial more than a something that should be enjoyed.
If you act yourself after your marriage and your man finds that he has to live with this "real you", your marriage is going to hit the rocks early, making divorce a real possibility.
As frightening as it is, this is a good incentive to really be as honest as you can with your man and to let him know how you truly are.
If he respects you and loves you, he won't react too badly to it.
3.
Divorce Ultimately, this is what it all leads to if you aren't yourself when you marry your man.
The woman that he weds at the altar has to be the same woman that he's going to live with for the rest of his life.
The same goes for him as well.
Wouldn't you feel lied to if you found out that your man used to be a drug addict? You would prefer to find out about this early just so anything that happens down the track doesn't come as so much of a shock to you.
These marriage problems can be avoided if you think ahead and are mature enough to realize that honesty is always the best policy.
Even if you are to lose what you have, it would be best if you lost it with integrity instead of having it taken away from you by signing divorce papers.
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